How do your kids "hug"??

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How do your kids "hug"??
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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 2:19pm

I was reading the "I love you" thread, and ran across something that Renee mentioned. "HUGS" Nathan hugs face to face with ME!!! Usually with his dad, but sometimes daddy gets a back or side hug. Tyler gets face to face..but that's because he has these chunky cheeks that Nathan likes to touch and kiss!!! lol Everyone else gets the back or side hug. Nathan has been known to surprise us .....and has occasionally given a face to face hug to both of his grandmas!

michelle

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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 3:54pm

Owen often just leans into us and others to "hug".

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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 4:22pm

Jake very rarely gives hugs when asked. but on the occassion that he does he usually just leans in and lets you hug him. He has been known to give a typical hug (face to face I guess)every now and then, but they're very short, and he turns his head or puts his head down so he doesn't have to look at you. He's sneaky that way! I tend to get more hugs than most, but every now and then he'll surprise us and give grandma a hug. Over the holiday, he actually hugged a niece of mine that he hadn't seen in a year! That was quite a shocker! You can never predict how he'll behave!

Jen
mom to Jake (2) - expressive language delay, oral apraxia, sensory integration dysfunction and possible PDD-NOS (waiting on evaluation), and Mikey (9 months) - smiley boy!

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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 5:16pm

Depends on the mood of the child. They go through phases.

Currently, Mike was in a backwards hug phase. You have to remind him to turn around and give you a proper hug. Sometimes he will and sometimes he just can't. He was also leanign in and letting grandparents hug him if he had to. He will not let others hug him, If they touch him they get a funny look.

But it is in phases. Other times he will definitely be into hugs and he gives you these surprise killer hugs that about knock you on your tush, LOL. His poor grandmas when he is in that phase. I have to remind him to be a little more gentle then. Still the only people that get hugs are mom, dad and grandparents. And usually only when requested except for me. He will surprise me.

Cait is a stand there and let you hug her type. She rarely initiates and you have to convince her to hug you back. The other day she initiated giving me a backrub, lol. She rarely initiates any physical affection and lately is very tactile defensive so I think it was a pretty big thing.

Regardless, we still make them hug us. We are pretty affectionate parents so it is a must.

Dave has always and will always give the knock you down hugs that crush you. Tons and often. He is sensory seeking kind of guy who is super affectionate.

Renee

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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 5:40pm

Jake is very sensory seeking. He asks 20 billion times a day can I have a hug. This at times drives his sister crazy..not to meation me. Sometimes I use it as a reward for doing somrthing--ex: If you complete your math I will give you a big hug. When he hugs he gives you a big bear hug and squeezes very tight...last year he had a very petite teacher and would lift her off the ground when he would hug her....we have to remind him that gentle hugs feel better.

Liza

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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 7:36pm

Peter has two modes: He can 'reverse in for hugs and offer his head to be kissed, or he can wrap 2-4 limbs around you, hang on like a limpet and knock you for six!. Mode A is his 'normal' mode. Mode B, is when is is having a particularly good day.

Siobhan is a hug sensory seeker. She gives and needs consistent warm close hugs, which pleases me no end. AND she says "I love you" unprompted on a regular basis.

-Paula

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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 9:21pm
Jake loves to get hugs but giving them, that's another story. He gives a kind of head butt and usually I have to tell him to put his arms around me. I guess that's when motor planning is a problem for him but I'll take them any way I can get them.
Teresa
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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 9:31pm

I have always talked to Tyler about Nathan's need to touch him all the time. And I had to come up with a compromise for the both of them. Tyler was getting tired of it, but Nathan was just relentless with the wrestling, touching, kissing, ANYTHING!!! So a couple of weeks ago, I find out that Nathan has been "asking" for his hugs from Tyler (something I told him to do, instead of attacking Tyler)....and Tyler will stop what he's doing, and give his brother a big hug!!! Isn't that sweet? He says he even kisses him if he wants.

I had no idea that this was going on. I always told Nathan to ask first, and Tyler seemed ok with that. I just didn't realize that it was actually happening. And Tyler is built like a football player, so I think Nathan really enjoys his hugs!

michelle

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Tue, 12-06-2005 - 3:01pm

Christopher gives bone-crushing, boa constrictor, deep pressure hugs--the same kind he likes to receive. When he was in first grade, his teacher referred to these as hugs that would squish her down a dress size!

Elizabeth
mom to Christopher (AS--big 13 tomorrow!)