How's about some appropriate wording?

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How's about some appropriate wording?
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Thu, 04-08-2010 - 9:04am

So Peter has a "field trip" today with his middle school. They are going to see a play. A flyer came back from the school about this, specifying various things we should and shouldn't do. Some of it made sense, like bring a brown bag lunch and whether students may take their cellphones.

There were two instructions that Peter got hung up on:
"Students much wear appropriate attire for the theatre"
"Students must bring a jacket"

It's going to be 84 degrees here today, so although I told him he didn't need a jacket, he INSISTED on bringing one because "it said to bring one". OK that's fine.

But the worst problem we had was at 6:45 this morning, when he had a meltdown, saying his attire (khaki shorts and a plain t-shirt) was not appropriate for the theatre, but he didn't know what clothes he had that *were* appropriate and ...well, there was a lot of storming and a few tears. I think he thought he needed a tux or something.

I got him calmed down and packed off to school and I'm sure he will have a good time. But really, school: is it too hard nail down your wording or to give some examples of appropriate vs inappropriate attire? I haven't had my coffee before seven am and am really not equipped to deal with perfectly avoidable issues then.

-Paula

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-Paula

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Thu, 04-08-2010 - 9:22am

Hi Paula,

Just had to giggle at the fact that you had to deal with this at 7 AM. Sheesh to that school and it's appropriate clothes, what were they thinking? Do they want the kids to dress up? Then they should say so more clearly.

I hope he had a great time today.

yours,

Sara

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Thu, 04-08-2010 - 12:48pm

Lol!!

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Thu, 04-08-2010 - 1:17pm

LOL

We've been having problems with vague directions too. Even after I emailed the teachers explaining that we needed really clear directions as Graham is horrible at listening to oral clarification that is often given in class.

Sorry your morning was so challenging. But it makes for a cute story too.

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson
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Thu, 04-08-2010 - 2:39pm

I don't *know* what they meant! Pete was asking that and I was trying to think what attire would be *inappropriate* in the High school (it's not even in a real theatre) on a hot day. The best I could come up with were neon colours and lighty-up shoes, in case they distract the cast.

He was thinking he needed long pants, but most of his long pants are sweats and therefore more casual than the shorts.

AND then when he left the house, there was an 18 wheeler parked where the bus usually stops, so he walked past it and out of my sight (Gah!). He did call me to say he was on the bus. I think the driver told him to (I love Bob the driver!).

So two stressors in one morning! He will be home very soon and he will either be a monster or lovely. I didn't get a call from the school, so I'm hoping for the latter.

-Paula

-Paula

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-Paula

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Thu, 04-08-2010 - 11:00pm

Oh how I remember when Chris was in 6th grade and I got the appropriate attire letter regarding a play they were going to see.

Chris made me go out and buy a dress shirt with a tie. This was so out of the ordinary for him cuz there's normally no way I could get him dressed up lol. I mean we don't even dress up for holidays and family stuff.

So I do so thinking this must be what they mean by appropriate attire. Chris came home that day and said he was the only one dressed that way. UGH. AND, he never wore the shirt or tie again. What a waste of money.

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Fri, 04-09-2010 - 11:45am

Oh. My Favorite is the letters from school, who "Invites" parents to come for PTA, or Math Night, OR any other function at night. If my DS reads these. He holds me to them. I try to explain to him, that we do not need to go to everyone of those things. My son is 8 and in 2nd grade, so we get those a lot. I have expressed many times, how if they could not send us those. Its hard to take him in the first place. But It sometimes seems everyweek, there is something different. I feel so horrible when he is in tears, cause he thinks we need to go.


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Fri, 04-09-2010 - 3:41pm
Oh YES! I hate the notes too because we HAVE to go MOM!!!
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Fri, 04-09-2010 - 3:53pm

last spring

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Sat, 04-10-2010 - 1:29am

Well, Dave had a similar trip this year and his teacher was VERY specific with the kids. Initally it was "appropriate attire for the theater" but the teacher then gave specific guidelines for the kids. Sunday best, for instance, boys wear a colar and long pants that are not jeans and do not have holes. Girls a dress is preferred or nice pants (not jeans) and a nice top (not a t-shirt).

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Sat, 04-10-2010 - 6:43pm

Ooohhh! Don't get me STARTED on vague comments! My ds' class teacher even gives vague praise! Ds had done something well in class that involved being organised - still don't know what - so she very kindly wrote in his school diary "Good organising today, S". He was anxious about that comment as he had no idea to what she was referring! Tell you the truth, neither do I, as when I queried the teacher the next day she couldn't remember! LOL

It also drives me crazy when teachers tell kids to "write about something you did in the holidays". ARGH!! Don't they know how frustrating that is for kids who find it difficult enough to write about something very specific, never mind so vague that a professional author would be growling?!?

The attire situation where school incursions/excursions are concerned are luckily pretty specific in ds' school. They will be pretty explicit as to what is appropriate or not.

How much trouble is it for some schools to realise that EVERY child in a school will benefit from specificity?

Fiona