I am feeling pretty down....

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I am feeling pretty down....
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 12:49am

I posted on my bad day on Evelyn's thread.


I am also dealing with a hubby that still is in denial and thinks our child (Chris) was mis-dx-d.

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 1:43am

I haven't been able to post much lately, but wanted to post to give you some cyber hugs (and chocolate and wine too of course.)

I read your post under Evelyn's and you have a lot on your plate! Do you have someone who can back you up for vacation? Can the Grandparents or other family come over and distract everyone for awhile?

Have you told your DH that you are worried about divorce? I'm one of those people that says too much at times, so I would have already told DH by now exaclty what you've said in your post.....I would have cried, vented and raged to him about how frustrated I was with parenting our children, how much I needed him to be on board and how disappointed and hurt I was that he wasn't......I often have my foot in my mouth though too. I'm keeping my fingers crossed that he'll see the light.

Wishing for a peaceful Christmas.......

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 8:16am

Sending you lots of (((((HUGS)))) and prayers for a peaceful-- or at least more peaceful holiday break. I only have one on the spectrum and I'm wishing that I could send them back to school already. You have so much on your plate!

At first my DH wasn't sure that the Dx was right for Weston. He was absolutely sure that nothing like this could be wrong with our son. (he's too bright, he's too smart, he's too sweet...) but DH has done his own research and looked at Weston's development and it all fits. It's actually reassuring that it fits. We understand our son better (but we both had to go through that denial stage tho).

I agree w/ the previous poster, maybe getting away from the boys for a long date would be helpful. You could talk about how concerned you are about where your marriage is headed and get all these feelings out in the open.

(((MORE HUGS))))

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 8:20am
HI my son has had a learning disability for years and no one knew what exactly until he was in grade eleven. He has had and IEP since grade 6. He does not talk to others and does not talk on the phone they the school team chalked it up to being shy.
Eliszae
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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 9:31am

Oh, hugs for you.

                                

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:22pm

Hi Christy!


I don't really have much for family here.

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:24pm

Hi Betsy!


I have read that this deniel thing is normal, but for the love of ducks, how long does it last????!!!! LOLOLOL

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:26pm

Hi Eliszae,


I so understand the added stress of school and the whole IEP crap that we have to fight for sure add's alot to the pot!

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 2:28pm

{{{hugs back Heather}}}


I love how you said this as it's EXACTLY how I feel lol!!!


My DH isn't supportive either and I waver between being so in love with him and so angry with him that I could punch him.


Thanks guys for letting me let this all out.


Lainie

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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 3:48pm

Lainie........


I'm so sorry to hear you are down and out. You know my story, kinda polar opposite of yours, and this too will work itself out.


Men have a very hard time dealing with dx and the aftermath of what else could be......since it's his son, like my own DH, they see it as failure.


I really hope he'll educate himself.....for him and your marriage and for your family.


Love ya girl


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Thu, 12-20-2007 - 4:27pm

I'm new here and I'm going through the same thing.

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