I am going to KILL them

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I am going to KILL them
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Tue, 08-07-2007 - 7:02pm

OMG OMG OMG OMG, I have aged 30 years today.

Yesterday, FINALLY, I decide to let Mike ride his bike on the street with me and we rode to the school and back(1 mile total). Dave came with us and they did great. I was thinking WOW we can do normal kid things.

So today, we decide to go again. 1/2 way down our hill (we are on a fairly quiet street) Mike decides without informing me to go back up the hill and into our driveway and ride down again.

WELL he comes flying out of the drive way RIGHT IN FRONT OF A CAR! Never noticed the car and the car was hauling ass. I screamed "STTTTTTTOOOPPPPPPPP" and the WHOLE town heard. I gave Mike an EAR FULL about watching for cars. How to cross the street. Friggen stuff we have been working on for 6 years.

Ok, so it gets worse. We go down the hill and onto the busier street. The boys KNOW they are supposed to stay on the shoulder and cross when it is safe. but nOOOOOOOOOO not the oh impulsive ones.

Dave BOLTs into the street in front of 2 cars going opposite directions!!!! I yell "STTTTTTTTOOOOOOOOPPPPPPPPPPP" so the whole neighborhood hears again. Dave tries to run back and falls. THe car coming down this side slams his breaks to stop. And I run infront of it to grab him off the street.

OMG I am NEVER taking them ANYWHERE again. We turned around and marched home. Field trip finished.

The boys of course have no concept of their wrong doing in this matter. To mike he simply forgot and it was the cars fault for being there. To dave he says "but we always cross there" YEAH AFTER WE LOOK IDIOT! (OK so I didn't call him idiot, but man oh man did they both get yelled at)

I came home and downed a beer and I think I need another.

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Registered: 05-28-2004
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 1:56pm

Hugs, Renee.

At least its a reality check. I don't think anyone is going to talk you into believing that you are over-protecting your kids today. They do need extra help. You are not creating your own stress.

I'm working on getting my 6 year old to look up and down the street before crossing with me, and if he looks, he gets the "reward" of being allowed to walk near me, not holding my hand. The three year old is working on complying with holding my hand, or he has to be carried. But once I got my prompts mixed up and I told the 3 year old to look up and down the street. He looked up to the sky and down to his feet.

Mine are littler, so it is not so in-my-face yet on this issue. But I do see other 5 and 6 year olds who seem to usually know better than to go into the street without looking. Typical kids usually are distracted by something before they make that mistake, such as chasing a pet or sibling or toy. My bigger guy argues with me in a way that makes it clear that he does not get the safety issue. He says that his friend goes into the street without looking and the cars stop every time. It is as if looking is a waste of energy to him.

Just say the word, I'll send another beer.

Sidney

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Wed, 08-08-2007 - 2:49pm

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 4:01pm

Renee,


I haven't read the rest of the replies, since I don't know how long I've got the computer for...but OMG!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 08-08-2007 - 7:44pm

I used to have to do that holding thing with Dave when he was little, bsidney. It was such a struggle to get him to hold my hand and he would constantly bolt. He still likes to run ahead and we are constantly working with him on earning not having mom hold his hand by staying RIGHT with me but he got away to fast this time. Mike had to hold my hand until he was about 10 and in parking lots I still have to stand RIGHT next to him. He is getting better but he just doesn't realize his surroundings.

That lady is living my life evelyn. Geez by 7 1/2 and 11 1/2 I THOUGHT they would know how to be on the street and be cautious. I have worked on this skill constantly for years and it just isn't sticking.

the worst was when mike was 5. We had put him and Cait in soccer (BAD move). well at one of Cait's games mike was obsessing on this ball. We figured it was good for him to practice then it went into the parking area and UNDER a MOVING CAR! Does my son stop, NO, does he look, NO, he was trying to dive UNDER the car to get it. I was screaming his name. He never heard. DH got there just in time to grab him by the shirt and yank him back.

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