I am livid and need help fast...
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|Thu, 09-04-2003 - 1:06pm|
She had no problems the first day of school. She said bye and took off and never looked back. I would call it successful. Yesterday i went to pick her up (now they only have her for two hours a day for three days a week) and we already had a little parent/teacher talk. Catie is already "in trouble".
She apparently isnt transitioning and following intructions. :gasping: NO!!! You don't say! Well, she wouldnt do circle time. So they gave her the option of sitting in the circle or sitting in the chair. She would do neither. She went into a tantrum where they had to "restrain" her. The other kids went to the play ground and she was devestated because she couldnt go too. But they told her she couldnt go until she sat down in the chair. They said in the usual compliance of a preschooler, it usually takes 30 seconds to 2 minutes for them to finally comply to get the incentive, in this case to go outside with the others. With Caitlin, it took 12 minutes.
Well, this is no shock to me. I have been dealing with this for 2 years now. But what REALLY irks me is that it was presented to me in a fashion of "i know WE can work TOGETHER to get this corrected and i will be sending notes home and i know that consistency at home and at school is the best thing for her"
HELLO?? MY GOSH. Did these people not READ her file?? I have been complaining about this for 18 months TO Early intervention. I told the preschool teacher LAST week she has a transition problem. I told the new case worker on Tuesday when she came to our home that i have tried spanking, time outs, incentives, ignoring... i mean, what ELSE can i do??
I told the lady during the conference that i have TOLD EI about this multiple times and they told me to and i quote "pick my battles, offer incentives, and ignore" and that is what i have done. Now i have a preschool administration making me feel like i don't discipline my child.
When she was 2, both my husband and i felt like WE were the parents and if we told this kid to jump, she should. It took alot for me to let go and become more laid back and to accept Caitlin for who she is and to work with what i have. Now at 3 1/2 i do feel at times that things get out of control, but again, i have never been given the tools to know what works with her and wait doesnt. Her latest thing is telling me no. I will tell her to do something and she screams NO at me. It infuriates me and makes me want to knock her head off, just because i feel like she is starting to be a brat. But i know spankings don't work. I can't sit down and reason with her. I can time out her, and i do, but that ends up turning into a 20 minute temper tantrum.
I am frustrated and exhausted at the circles i am going in. being 16 weeks pregnant doesnt make this easier. THe thought of having to sit on her, or restrain her, just isnt in my daily routine of fun right now. I kinda feel like this is THEIR problem now since i have tried to seek help from them in the past and they seemed to think it was just me. NOW that THEY have her for 6 hours a week, it really is a problem that needs to be addressed right now!! TODAY! Grrrr...
I know it is only the second day of school, but i want to yank her out of school so fast. She hasnt started montessori yet because we are still having potty training issues. My dad told me to just give her a little more time and i can't quit at every little bump in the road. But i am to the point where i can't tell what is hurting her or helping her. I am lost.
She goes back again today for the last day of the week. The lady who i talked to put a new label on her (i missed the label cause i was more surprised and my ears were ringing) and said she would be going to her boss and discussing this issue with her on how we should handle Catie.
As soon as i sign off of here, i will be making a new appointment with her Psychologist. But i thought i would ask you guys what you think. Any thoughts on this??