I am so confused

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Registered: 10-22-2003
I am so confused
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Tue, 07-26-2005 - 3:57pm

I belong to the October playgroup and there has been so much discusion(sp) there about PDD that I start reading more about it on the internet. Now I'm not sure if my daughter falls under this category.

She doesn't respond to people outside our family. If a neighbor is calling her name she just acts as if they don't exsist. She like her food cut a certain way and if it's not done the way she likes it she cries uncontrollably until you make her a new one. She has little interst in playing with kids her own age. And she always has to win or again that uncontrollable crying starts. Until recently when we would play games noone else would get a turn.

My mom says it's my own fault. When Kayla was born my other daughter was 10 years old and I alway made her give into Kayla. Examples: If my older daughter (Chris) was on the computer and Kayla wanted it I would make Chris logoff. If Chris and Kayla were racing I'd say oh she a baby just let her win. If Chris was coloring something and Kayla wanted it I'd make her give it to her, saying I'll just get you a new one next time we go out. I could go on and on but the short of it is that Kayla has never had to wait "her turn" for anything and everything in the house ended up being hers at some point.

I've never really had her play with other children, I'm germphobic and am always thinking "I'm not bring her there, she'll get sick for sure with all those little kids running around"

By the was Kayla is almost five and about to start school in September, and I'm afraid that once she's there and she doesn't win at something or has to wait to take a turn at something it's going to be that ugly crying game of hers.

Haley

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 1:05am

Well, see if you can make an appointment with your pediatrician and get a referral for her to be evaluated. Also, when the school year starts i would see about making an appointment with the teacher and telling her your concerns. Mention that you are working on it through insurance to the best of your abilities and would like to work with her as a team to help Kayla. That way you have already started communication and why if things don't go well. I find it is always best to try to communicate and work together with the teacher. Then you can get a jump start on things hopefully.

You are not a bad mom. It is not your fault. If you daughter has a neurologic difference you having her older sister be more flexible didn't make that happen. And now you have lots of time to learn different strategies to try to help some of those behaviors.

Good luck and welcome

Renee

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Registered: 10-24-2003
Wed, 07-27-2005 - 11:27am

Your Mom certainly isn't being very helpful, is she?


I think an evaluation with a developmental pediatrician might be a good thing to schedule before school starts.

Pat

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