I feel like a failure (Dr visit update)

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I feel like a failure (Dr visit update)
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Thu, 12-13-2007 - 1:02pm

Last week in Thur night chat (I think?) I was talking about J's appt with the new pedi's office, and how we saw a PA (physician's assistant) for a general physical who was very anti-meds and seemed to be my sort of doctor.


Yeah.


Yesterday we met with the actual pedi.

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Thu, 12-13-2007 - 1:33pm

Teri,


You haven't failed him. You've done everything in your power to fight a flawed system. I feel so bad for you that you find yourself in this situation.

-Paula

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Thu, 12-13-2007 - 1:35pm

((((HUGS)))) you have NOT failed your child! You are doing the best you can w/ the resources available! You're trying your damnedest and I applaud you for it!

sometimes meds are a good thing. We used meds to help #1 son (ADD-NOS, flirts w/ the spectrum) to help him get through middle school. This year (16, 10th grade) he insisted he could handle school w/o meds as long as he was in the resource class and had some back up. He's doing great now, keeping up at school and able to hold it all together (even has his learners permit for driving). Sometimes you just have to give meds a try-- you can always quit them if they don't work. Don't let them bully you!

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Thu, 12-13-2007 - 1:38pm

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Thu, 12-13-2007 - 2:36pm

{{{HUGS}}} I can understand that at times like these everything looks so bleak. Been there. As a parent, I've felt like a total failure often too. But you are doing everything you can to help your child! It's not your fault, and it's not your child's fault. And I don't think the school can force you to medicate your child, at least not in my state (California). I am also having my son get treated for ADHD, and trying to get an appointment set up. It's frustrating me to no end as people are not calling me back at the clinic, etc. I was so depressed over my son's PDD-NOS/ADHD issues that I got a prescription for an antidepressant. I went on it for 3 days but had to quit as it was messing me up (couldn't sleep for 3 days. Insomnia was unbearable). It, however, had the positive effect of uplifting my mood, but left me sleepless, foggy in the head, and had very-short-term memory loss (like writing something down and forgetting what I was suppose to write). If mental meds are this bad on adults, I am really reluctant to have my son on meds too. I have not made up my mind about which route to take, but we should definitely compare notes. Hang in there!

-- Innie

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Thu, 12-13-2007 - 2:46pm

Teri, have they done testing at all?

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Thu, 12-13-2007 - 3:05pm

You are not a failure.