I just had a horrible fight with DH
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| Tue, 12-12-2006 - 1:12am |
My son is being tested right now by a NP..... for Dysgraphia, Autism, Aspergers.... but the more I read with communication problems, sounds of his speech, his behavior, I am convinced that my son has some sort of Autistic Disorder, or on the spectrum or SOMETHING, if not neurlogical, then SOMETHING, which I am willing to take, if its my fault.........Sigh..... I still don't really know what that all means....
My DH on the other hand is the type of person that doesn't want to think his son has problems.
Sooooo.....
Tonight my dh had to make cookies for my 7 yr olds boyscouts tomorrow (dont' ask, I'm a horrible cook lol), so when my 10 yr old son (being tested) had to do music with my dh downstairs I saw problems. Usually its a thing were they practice it upstairs at the same time at night in our room, when my 7 yr old goes to bed. But this night he had to do it downstairs......
I heard yelling downstairs, DH frustraited.... so I go down. DS is lunging behind things to come up and scare me (his favorite thing to do) So I realize whats happeneing and try to help him sit to play his music. DH too critical (sees this as a behavior thing, and not a neurlogical thing.... and says I messed everything up when I entered the room, he says he acts differenty when he's not around me, which I think he's wrong)
Then I found out my dh promised he could watch a movie after he did the music (which took forever and never happened), and thinks its still a discipline type of thing, my son starts freaking out.... getting to the point of violent again...
I had to interveine, get his mind on something else and lead him upstairs, get him into bed. Of course I had to put in the movie, but I plan to figure out how to turn it off in a few mins to get him into sleep. I guess running the dryer will help LOL....
Help, If I don't laugh I will cry!!!!
Lainie

Been there - done that. Right now I';m about the ONLY person that believes there's something wrong with Josh (my 10) - everyone else says he's spoiled and lazy. (Hey Renee - what's that oath?)
Last night we spent from 3pm when he got to daycare until 8pm bedtime doing homework. 2 assignments - #1 - alphabetize spelling words, copy list once, and use them all in a story. #2 - finish the creative writing project for my Christmas gift (it'll go to Uma and Papa instead since I've seen it). The first half of #1 took about 2 hours. Then we took a break and moved on to #2 - I had him dictate to me and he has to copy it onto notebook paper still, but it took about 45 minutes (reasonable). The second half of #1 (writing a story using 20 spelling words) too over 2 hours!
And I wonder why I never have time to spend with my 4yo (who was hanging upside down off the back of the couch watching Blues Clues while I worked with Josh), and why my house is trashed. If I don't sit with him and keep on him it takes even longer.
Hey, I have a trick for the alphabetizing for our concrete, disorganized lovelies.
You WRite the alphabet on a piece of scratch paper A B C D E F G H etc. Then start at the top of the list and put a tick mark for each word by the letter they start with. When you get to the end of the list, start at the beginning of the alphabet and go to the first word with tick marks. Say it is a B and B has 3 tick marks. Now you find those three words, write those in order, cross them off and go onto the next letter.
LOADS easier for our guys. Alphabetizing is harder than it seems if kids have any organizational or distractability issues which most of our guys do.
Renee
Thank you Tasha, I really needed to let that out last night, and I'm so happy here. I get so tired of it being "my fault" and nervous over this all.
I am getting blamed by the teacher. She has no clue I'm testing him for Autism/Aspergers, because if she did she would just think I'm a hysterical mother who is "trying" to find something wrong with him so I don't have to make him do his work or talk when she wants him to talk.... All she knows is he is being tested for Dysgraphia.
And then my husband.... UGH. Most of my rl friends and family see now what I am talking about and see things differently. A few don't still..... see it as a behavior issue and don't even see it could be neurological...
Thanks, and Yes I think I need to do the Oath again LOL! Thank you to Renee who made me stand up at my computer, hold my hand up and repeat it outloud LOL!