I need help explaining....

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I need help explaining....
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Mon, 01-22-2007 - 10:55am

I know that the thoughtless comments are a norm for a child with AS butttt how do i convince SO of this... he thinks the things my son has said and is still saying are the result of having an "attitude"

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 1:59am

Well, IMO, if that were to happen to me, I would take the side of my son, and not so much as my SO, because the SO doesn't understand anything about autism or the spectrum.

Can you give your SO a book to read? You can just say here honey, read this, it will explain these things are more neurological and not behavior, mixed with a bit (alot) of anger?

Don't let go of your son... He really needs you. Tell the SO that this is important to you, and to the health of your child.

I really hope things turn out well for you. But your SO needs to do some learning on children, acceptance, and autism.

I wish you luck

Lainie

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Wed, 01-24-2007 - 10:55am

Amy Ann,


I think trying to shield you SO from the reality of the situation and hoping stuff won't happen in front of him will make the divide wider. He does need to learn about AS, and that your son's behaviors are not fully under his control.


I would definitely talk to him and try to teach him. Take the subtle approach:


"OMG I was just reading this article and it said that Kids with AS can often do ____! I used to think he was being nasty, but then again, that kind of didn't make sense to me. Now I know it's just how is brain is wired and he can't help it. It's good to know it's not my fault".


...or whatever.


You know.

-Paula

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