I think we need help....

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-07-2004
I think we need help....
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Tue, 01-09-2007 - 2:46pm

We are just mulling by here. We are still waiting for the school to "decide" whether my son is eligible for services. He will probably not be deemed eligible. However, he was doing OT and our approval from the insurance co just expired 12/31, so we are waiting to see if they will pay for more therapy. Even if they do, it costs us $50 a week. Then, the insurance company has denied us speech therapy (school should provide). So, basically we are no further today then we were when we found out his diagnosis 9 months ago.

We are having great difficulty at home with our son. He is constantly yelling at us when we ask ANYTHING of him. I am not sure if it is anger related or what. He is just impossible to get him to do anything at all. We just can't get anywhere with him. Additionally, he absolutely can't not be rushed to do anything- he works at his speed and only his speed (which is SLOW). If we need to get to school or anywhere, he has to take a toy with him for the ride and it takes him forever to pick it out and there is absolutely nothing I can do to make him move at the pace I want him to.

I feel like we need to see someone, anyone, that could possibly help us with our son. He absolutely can't live his life like this and I know we can't either.

I am curious as to what other parents do and who they see for this type of help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2006
Tue, 01-09-2007 - 6:07pm

hello
i'm sure other people will have suggestions about the school/insurance/behavior problems.
i just wanted to remind you to take care of yourself. if the stress on you gets
too high you won't be able to help your son. be sure to do something nice for yourself.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 12:12am

You know, the poky puppy syndrome in the morning really irritates me too.

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Registered: 11-07-2004
Wed, 01-10-2007 - 2:01pm

You are so right, rushing him makes it worse. It is so hard not to when you need to get the kids to school and yourself to work.

I do have a poster in his room that shows step by step what he needs to do in the morning. It never really worked but maybe I need to go back to it and put some more effort into it. I think I also need to write some social stories on it maybe.

I think I need to get him up earlier, that would probably make a difference. Right now he has 45 minutes total for everything. I think I will need to put him to bed earlier to make this work though. I am going to sit down and think this through and come up with a plan to get him up earlier and see how we do.

Thanks so much for your input!