I was right

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I was right
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Mon, 09-12-2005 - 4:41pm

The therapist is ditching us.

Came up with all kinds of excuses about how the kids would be better served in groups. How she just isn't able to meet what they need most, etc.

Thing is her website says she specializes in spectrum kids AND there are plenty of issues my kids need to work on and even as a family that she could address. Especially sibling issues. So I think she is full of it.

She went so far as to recomend another practice that has groups. It is pretty well known but I am less than impressed with this group. Our ex-therapist even called them to see if they would give scholarships or take our insurance. She really wants us gone or is feeling really guilty.

Thing is A) I have told her in the past that I am not impressed with these groups even if it is her friend, B) Mike DOES NOT do change and will not go into a new group. I just started him trying karate again cause he was in a good place and stable. he can't do 2 changes, C) the time they had for Cait's group was 8pm on a school night (thus she wouldn't be in bed until at least 9:30-10 and up at 5:30. Not and option for her. D) Cait's group is all girls who are older than her.

I am just pissed beyond belief. Cait doesn't even get closure with the girl she was in group with. I had to tell her I wanted her to meet with the kids to discuss it with them and I wanted paperwork.

I need to let it sit for about an hour or 2 then write her an email. I called and left a message but I really need to let her know how upset I am. But I need to do it when I cool down a bit.

Renee

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Registered: 10-03-2004
In reply to: rbear4
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 8:13pm

Dear Renee,

Big Bummer, damn. Like therapeutic relationships are so easy to just switch like that! I think I might be tempted to have a big ole' hissy fit on her. Without waiting to cool down. 'Course, noone should ask me 'cuz I'm just in a big hissy fit-to-be-tied kinda mood these days, no patience, no politeness, just a state of simmer, simmer, ready to snap, crackle, pop. Not real noticeable or even impressive in general in NYC, but hard on my guys and my friends are feelin' the strain.

Wow, though, I really understand why you are so very angry. Last, last thing you need right now, and right at the beginning of school, too, couldn't wait til, like, Nov. when back in school and new routines, etc. awhile. Wham, bam, and both kids at once, no thank you ma'am!!!

Can you set up social outing, like for ice cream, with the girl Cait was in group with, on your own? Can she be a new pal without therapy?

Let us know what happens next, like, will we hear about this on the news? I'll keep my eyes open for sudden mysterious alien abductions of Bay area ASD specialist psychs... oooooooo ooooooo ooooooooo ooooooo

yours,

Sara
ilovemalcolm

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In reply to: rbear4
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 8:37pm

Your aiming to far north. Go for San Diego area, not bay area. yes, look for them.

OK, I didn't wait. I sent her a scathing email. I also spoke to my SIL (who has used this therapist in the past and still does on occasion) as well as that other girls mom.

We are already set to get the girls together outside the doctors office. We have on a couple occasions. The mom and me are getting to be pretty good friends too. She is also miffed at this therapist. She had been wonderful in the past, however, since getting married less than a year ago we both find we are getting shorted on our time often and other little things.

My SIL still thought highly of Dr. Sarah, but understood our position. Her son is HF autistic but much more classic. She has been through lots of the same junk with therapists in the past.

So less angry now, but not much. I still have to deal with telling the kids. They will likely take it well. They are used to disappointment.

Renee

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