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| Wed, 03-21-2007 - 10:22pm |
Okay after talking to the autistic specialist for the school today, she seems to think that Victor is trying to outsmart his teacher by not answering those questions. I'm a little frustrated. She wants me to make a list of rewards/consequences for Victor to inspire him to truly try his hardest. The only problem is, how do I make up a consequence chart when he doesn't care. If I take away his free time on the computer, he goes to ride his bike. Take the bike away, he'll play video games, or tv, or even books. I have gone so far as to strip his room before because he wouldn't listen and I looked in on him afterwards and he was counting the stucco pieces on the ceiling. SIGH!
Any help at all would be awesome if you guys can think of anything. (Even if it's to tell me that this whole school system is whack, I'll take that too :) )
Alexis

Your whole school system is whack!
Ok, honestly, I have no constructive advice whatsoever.
Alexis,
Hmmmm... Tricky.
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First of all, for our kids who experience frequent failure, consequences really don't mean much of anything. And due to poor perspective taking, they don't feel bad about making us mad either cause they don't get it.
As for what motivates them positively, that is hard too. seems like it constantly has to change if you are using tangables.
But ya know, what we have found works THE BEST (particualrly with Mike but also with cait)? GOod old positive praise. When you really beef up the positive praise and try to catch Mike being good, man that kid will do anything for you. His whole body glows when he knows he has done something right and feels good about him self. Cait too, but we really notice it with Mike.
Renee
I totally agree w/ Renee (where is that icon?) My oldest doesn't respond to things being taken away much at all, nor does he respond to rewards. He sounds exactly like your son, the only thing he hates is having his books taken away, but even then he'll retreat into his imaginary world and no one can take that away from him. (he told a teacher in 6th grade that her class wasn't better than his world so he wasn't paying attention.) He does respond VERY well to positive praise, he'll just glow esp when it's from a teacher.
Betsy
AGREEING WITH RENEE AND BETSY...
Younger kids may be able to be worked with using consequences more, but older kids who are becoming more independent, our kids who struggle so all day -- unlike NT kids who really don't have moment to moment struggles AT THE SAME LEVEL AS OUR KIDS -- don't respond to consequences. Well, at least my ds and his pals don't except the younger ones.
We are working with contracts here, but this is at home... Assignments for points towards things he wants, etc. But here he is not under constant sensory duress to make it through his day.
And, yup, praise is always good.
Sara