I'm glad he plays alone

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I'm glad he plays alone
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Wed, 09-20-2006 - 1:12am

I wish there was a "hrrmph!

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Wed, 09-20-2006 - 9:19am

I know the feeling. When Mike plays with other kids is when he gets into trouble like when he broke his thumb last year. This year is it going better but only because 1- he has an aide even on the playground and 2- our noon duties (recess folks) are very vigilant and bullying really isn't allowed at our school.

I am up right now because I woke an 2hours ago from again my latest nightmare related to this. Cait is nearly a month late on her period. There is no supervision at the school lunch as she is an easy target. As far as I know she doesn't even know what sex is. I am PRAYING that she is late because of her seizure meds or school stress or her age. Any excuse I can come up with but my brain keeps going back to what could have happened during recess when I think that it isn't monitored nearly well enough. Hard to tell in middle school and big campuses it is hard to keep track.

If you are concerned I would go and talk to the principal. They are the only ones that can change that situation and if you don't get a good response there go onto the district and the superintendent. If that doesn't work, calling a board member usually does.

Personally I am waiting because I hope I am completely wrong. I don't want to freak Cait out yet. But if my concerns turn out to be justified HEADS WILL ROLL. If I am wrong, then when she starts her next period we are going to have a very concrete blunt talk with rules. She will follow the rules if they have been laid out clearly.

Renee

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Wed, 09-20-2006 - 9:28am

Evelyn...I couldn't agree with you more!

(((((Renee)))))...OMG, I can't even imagine worrying about something like that. But no doubt, my time will come. Can I actually send "hope she starts her period" vibes????

Amy

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Wed, 09-20-2006 - 12:42pm

Renee,


I don't know how long Cait has been getting periods, but I assume not very long.

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Wed, 09-20-2006 - 1:05pm

I firmly agree that playgrounds should be overseen by more than just a couple pair of eyes. Children are at different stages and levels, and bullies are out there. My son takes playing to a whole new level. He plays harsh, and other children get hurt. He has been seen as a bully by some. This caused him to play by himself, and caused another fun work "weird" by other children.

I too feel the same relief on one hand that Stephen plays by himself, and on the other hand that he really needs to be around others. I stay worried that he will be the one who is bullied, followed by the bully being the one really hurt. Stephen is strong, and does get very carried away.

Luckily we moved him so a very small school (20 grades 2nd to 12th.) This has really eased my mind.

Children are cooped up in school day after day, and social skills are thrown out the window to learning. Agression builds up in the classroom, and takes place out on the playground.

Kari

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Wed, 09-20-2006 - 1:24pm

Amy, I will take all the start her period vibes you can send. A few novena's won't hurt either.

Evelyn, she has had her period for 2 years. At first she could go 6 months between but for about the last 9 months or so she has been very regular and the last time she went this long was a year ago. I had thought about the seizure med but she has been on that for 6 months as well. However, she recently had an increase which also caused double vision side effect so it is possible and I am praying that is the culprit. I just lowered her dose myself since my neuro can't be bothered to call me back in a reasonable time and the double vision is gone. Hopefully this will resolve too.

On the plus side her when I dropped her off this morning Mike noticed a no smoking sign on campus and I was able to bring up "Gee Cait do you ever see any of the kids smoking?" "no" well we stayed on topic for a little and I was able to ask if she had known or seen any of the kids doing anything she would think was questionable or may want to hide from teachers and she honestly said no. No hesitation and no reason to think she was hiding anything. So I am hinging my hopes on that.

Renee

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Wed, 09-20-2006 - 10:26pm

Evelyn,

In all the research I've done so much has been said about ASD's having a lack of empathy. Sometimes I'm glad my kids have that. It seems like the NT kids, often, are trying to find a way to get the upper hand and take advantage and use their "empathy" to do harm to others. My kids don't do that so much, and I'm absolutely grateful.

I'm disturbed to hear that there is so little attention being paid by the adults on that playground. What does the principal say? Do they have any policies on bullying at that school?

Our elementary school is all over bullying. They have workshops on it and talk to the kids about it several times a year. However, it still happens and it is hard for the principal to deal with. I'm amazed at parents whose children are literally beating other kids up and they think the problem is with the victim. I would die of shame if I were informed that my child had bloodied someone's nose, gang bullied another child or picked on someone else. The sad part is, the kids who are doing the bullying are in need of some serious TLC and discipline, not parents who turn blind eyes to the situation. The teachers on that playground need some definite in-service regarding bullying and how to handle it. Some of them have the attitude that the kids will work it out, but they don't have the skills to work it out, even if they are NT.

Kelly