I'm thrilled to see other kids are lying
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| Wed, 02-08-2006 - 5:02pm |
Ok, I know that is pretty sick, but CJ (9 AS) tried to pull a whopper on us on Monday.
Anyway, CJ fell a bit behind in his Accelerated Reading at school. He goes to Occupational Therapy every Wednesday and Speech on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Not to mention, he is a little, ok, a lot, slower at completing his classwork. So the reading just has to come last.
Anyway, he took 2 tests on Monday. When he got off the bus, I asked how he did and with a HUGE smile on his face, he answered "I got and 80 and a 100!" Well, these were really difficult books, so I e-mailed his teacher. Her response was that he got a 30 and a 40!!!
I'm sure he was just telling us what we wanted to hear, but we were so hurt that he lied. He got a big lecture and had some fun things taken away.
It is making for a tough week, but he brought it on himself. Hopefully, he'll learn.
Sara and Renee, I read your posts and I am glad CJ isn't the only one pushing these limits.
Of course, DH was crushed, but I reminded him that he had burned a field and lied about it by this age, so CJ is really doing very well.
Crystal

Crystal,
I'd almost think a child isn't "normal" if he didn't try to get away with something at one time or another. I've caught Alex lying also; he's SLOWLY catching on that he can't get away with it with me.
I think the 'funniest' time that my step-ds lied to me was when he was about 15. We had a rule in our house that there was no eating anywhere in the house except in the kitchen or dining room. One day I found an empty jar of pickles (with just the juice left) in the storage room of our basement (we also had a TV room in the basement). When I asked him about it, he said, "oh, it's a science experiment I was working on". LOL!
Laurie
Laurie
Think of it as progress. It takes a fair amount of perspective taking to lie. It is a skill that is harder for our kids to learn. A typical preschooler and even toddler will learn how to bend the truth to not get into trouble. It is a part of growing up. We do need to teach our children to be honest and truthful but isn't it great that we have to teach it? That they did actually lie?
A few weeks ago I got a great laugh by same psychologist. I was talking about how Cait had done something that was just plain manipulative and very typical teen. I was actually excited. It was a completely new skill for her! (Of course now I can't even remember the exact example) But the psychologist thought it was hysterical how us parents with AS kids get so excited by behaviors that other parents she sees are trying to extinguish. LOL. (Like lying)
Renee
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