Incident at school

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Registered: 09-13-2006
Incident at school
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Thu, 12-07-2006 - 7:11pm

I went to pick up David from school today, and the teacher of the HFA pull-out class told me he had an 'incident".

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 8:40pm

Evelyn,


I think you need to start planning for 4th grade with his school, because I frankly don't see how David or any Aspie is going to function and "self-monitor" unaided

-Paula

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Registered: 04-11-2003
Fri, 12-08-2006 - 7:28am

Evelyn,

When Kyle had an outburst in 5th grade and finally got the schools attention real good they had an autism specialist come in & observe and give recommendations. She said they should set up a visual system using cards or something like that for Kyle to indicate he needed a break. Its just too difficult for our kids to use words when they are stressed out. She also said at first the breaks should be automatic. They need to be taught how to take a break and then re-join the class using visuals and social stories. After they are ready then the automatic breaks can be phased out.

And can I say boy oh boy if the teacher had made Kyle write letters of apology and then sit down with me and talk about what happened and say what he's supposed to do he'd just of had another melt down and would definately be saying "I hate myself". When he's upset about one thing he often says its another thing that is easier for him to talk about. I suspect that's what David was doing too.

Big Hugs
Samantha

Samantha
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-08-2006 - 11:00am

That is our big goal this year for Mike as well (self monitoring). It is going to be a task. We are working on making a sheet that he can fill in and go over with his teacher because the "realizing he needed a break and asking for one" never worked out. Thus the 1:1 aide - she is just this year getting him to leave the class and take a break when he needs one. Often suggesting this to him just set him off faster.

A big part of the problem is, and this is common with our guys, is that they don't RECOGNIZE the feelings of when they need a break or are getting anxious. So that may need to be taught separately. How does your engine run is supposed to be pretty good for this but there are other methods too I think. I will let you know what I learn if I ever figure this part out.

As for the comments about his having special needs to him. That is another whole can of worms. The kids were just about David's age when we told them of thier AS and explained it but we are careful that it is not something that can be used as an excuse or tat they feel bad about it.

Would write more but I am told it is "time to go" lol.

Renee

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Fri, 12-08-2006 - 11:56am

Renee, "how does your engine run" is what the OT used with Kyle along with social stories and visuals. After a full yr he still wasn't really self monitoring. He really needed the scheduled breaks. That's what he really loves about middle school. He gets a 4 min break between every class. His locker and classes are all clustered togeather so 4 mins is enough. The aide will still take him out during class if he needs it. I'm going to ask at the IEP if he is self monitoring or if he's still relying on the aide to tell him if he needs to leave class for a break (its only been twice this yr).

Samantha

Samantha
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Registered: 09-13-2006
Fri, 12-08-2006 - 1:52pm

Thank you, Paula, Samantha, and Renee, for your responses.

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Fri, 12-08-2006 - 10:04pm

So are you still screwing the shelves back onto the walls?

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