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| Thu, 09-08-2005 - 6:17pm |
We are having some behavioural issues with Peter here, with all the changes recently.
So today he was punished, and after he was released from his room, he perseveated about the punishment and his anger for some time. One coment struck me: "You love Siobhan more than me because I'm always a bad boy and Siobhan is always a good girl." Naturally, I corrected this statement immediately, but the truth remains that in this house, good behaviour gets praised and bad behaviour gets punished. Siobhan doesn't have behavior issues and is generally "good". Therefore, Siobhan is praised far more and punished far less than Peter. I guess he noticed. :(
So what should I do? Raise the behaviour bar for Siobhan and lower it for Peter? That doesn't seem right, especially as she is younger. However his behaviour isn't always a choice, so it is kind of pointless to leave the ball in his court.
Any ideas?
-Paula

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Paula,
Wish I could offer advice on this one.....but Nathan still seems oblivious to favortism. I never get accused of anything from him. I'm not sure what he notices if anything. I punish both boys. And it usually depends on who needs talking to first!
So far, they both know I love them, no matter what. They know I only punish for the behavior. I am waiting for the day of mean, angry comments though!! LOL
michelle
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