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| Mon, 09-25-2006 - 6:48pm |
Mike got a citizenship report for hitting a girl at school today. Hard enough that she was bawling. Basically unprovoked. According to him she was "annoying" him and he really has NO concept of his part in this or any remorse. He is mad because he has lost electronics but no remorse. I don't think he gets it. There still has to be a consequence and follow through on this. General house rule, hitting=losing priveldges.
He got this stimmy flashy light magnet thing at school today for a prize (for turning in PTA envelop) before the incident and that is all that has his interest. So flipping frustrating.
I have a feeling that we are going to have to revisit the mainstreaming thing or in other words, revisiting whether or not he can function in mainstreaming. He has been steadily getting worse for the past 3-4 weeks. Even at home. I can't even get him to focus for a milisecond and last week it was spending over 2-3 hours just trying to get him focussed and finish 30 minutes worth of homework that he did fine before.
He goes to the psych on wednesday and may go back on meds.
Yipee
Renee


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Nuh Uh! Well maybe cyberwine. 3 months of regular wine lasts at least 2 weeks IRL.
(Just kidding folks. I enjoy wine but not quite to that extent. But me thinking it is wine-thirty now)
Update. Happened again today. This is 3rd day in a row and I found out it all was at the same situation, lunch line. Teacher called today. They didn't citizenship report this one. In fact, yesterdays occured without her knowing or being able to go over it with Mike. She always at least explains it to him first.
The teacher is going to change the lunch routine so all the aides are out there and her kids aren't in line at the same time as the rest. We have recess before lunch so ALL the 5th grade kids line up at the same time. She likes to let them be with NT kids but in this case she is thinking of letting her kids play for an extra 5 minutes then going through the line when no one is there.
Certain girls have been teasing him too and that is part of the problem. THey know how to push his buttons. That will be addressed as well.
We are going to discuss the mainstreaming at his IEP right after camp next week. He only has 3 days of school left and then they go to camp. Even though in this situation it was the lunch line, his inability to deal seems to be related to mainstreaming. Don't want to reduce it yet but have to figure out a way to make him more successful.
Renee
Dear Renee,
Is it mainstreaming ... or is it TEASING? Jeez, teasing just so leaves our kids at such a disadvantage. Of course there have to be rules and consequences for hitting, but if we leave our kids unprotected around teasing, well, at our stage of the game, if it continues unchecked, there will certainly be hitting or at the very least loud yelling and angry faces and threatening motions.
I would say that ALL Malcolm's big hitting problems, with the exception of being in restraint by many teachers, come from teasing. He just can't handle it yet. And Malcolm is so immature when it comes to teasing, he cannot walk away yet or get a teacher. He just sees red and really needs intervention. Now with his FRIENDS, he teases and is teased back, but they all love each other and know when to stop with each other! (Maybe those NT kids really need the IEPs.)
But I mean, if the outbursts are around the same time, while on line, the lunchroom and certain girls and their teasing, well, maybe the situation can be managed? Social story worked on specific to this? And of course, the teacher changing the time etc. is really great, because it may increase possibilities of success. Repetition of event = not a good scenario for success currently, yes?
Anyways, big hugs. We solved this by just not having ds in school right now, not a great long-term solution, but there you have it.
Here in NYC, it has been wine-thirty for a few hours now...
Sara
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LOL, I will let them know! I can't get a straight answer out of Mike but now I hear it is boys. I think it is both. He won't tell me more than a sentence or 2 and then decides he is NOT talking about it. And to get a clear understanding with this kid one must play 20 thousand questions and hopefully you get a couple right.
At any rate the teacher is a keeper.
Sara, it is a mix of the mainstreaming and the teasing. The mainstreaming because he is working so hard to keep it together in the classroom during mainstreaming that his coping skills are just shot by then. This is just when he is transitioning back to his SDC group which is his safe place at school. The problem is NT kids are sneaky and opportunists sometimes. The aide has been trying to give Mike more independence and not hover when he is on the playground and that is when they take advantage. Then again, when in line that is when his aide finally has a chance to go to her lunch while the other classroom aides are there.
So you have a kid who has been stresssed all day, is finally with his safe people where he can let down his guard a touch, add to that his toughest time of the day (recess and unstructured time) and opportunists who know how to push his buttons and it is explosive. The kid doesn't stand a chance.
However, this writing just gave me some GREAT ideas! See this board thing is a good process! Hmmm off to email the teacher again. Poor thing is sick of me today.
Renee
No fair, why all the talk about wine around the preggo??????
Oh good. I was wondering when they would get to you. The kept heading off in the direction
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Actually I found some in of all places whole foods.
Count yourself lucky it wasn't an ong.
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