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just need some reassurance
| Mon, 03-20-2006 - 7:05pm |
So we moved here to NC thinking that the schools would be better and my DS who has Aspergers would get the services he needs. It's only been 3 weeks and today was his first visit to the principal's office. Ugh! apparently some kids were throwing pencils at him during a presentation he was doing so he flipped them the bird. He has some language problems and likes to swear when he's suprised or angry. I gave them all a heads up about this and the fact that he doesn't tolerate bullies well at all. He is such an easy target and he was really hoping going to a new school would give him a fresh start and it's happening again. I feel so bad for him. So he needs to spend the next 3 days eating lunch in the office and he's fine with it, but it upsets me as he was so excited to have a "fresh start". He's in the 6th grade and is 11. tough age! on the plus side he has made friends and was invited over to one of his friends house for a sleep over this past weekend and it went great. I am contacting the NC Autism Society to see if I can get an advocate to come with me to his IEP meeting. they finally set a date for that! If anyone has a pre-teen or teen aspergers child with any advice I would really appreciate it. Thanks for listening and letting me vent :)

ARGH!
What are the kids who were throwing pencils getting? Did they lose 3 lunches too. Did they get suspended like they should.
I would definitely give the school a piece of my mind over that one. The only reason your son had a behavior problem is because other children were allowed to bully him and because his disability doesn't allow him to problem solve in situations like this.
I am frustrated for you.
Renee
Hi there. Isn't he still on IEP from his previous school? I believe they need to honor his previous one until they set up their own.
I agree with Renee here. If I were you, I would really bug the school for emergency measures, as what they are doing is really borderline abusive, considering his disability!
BTW, at his age, flipping the bird and ending up in principal's office for 3 days could very well enhance his "cool" quota and help him make friends anyways... So, that fresh start may not be so injured here, really.
Welcome to the boards. Let us know how things go. Advocate probably a good idea, esp. if he/she has worked with this school district before and can give you a head's up. Sadly, even in educationally progressive state, certain schools can still be schmucks when it comes to specia; ed. Hope this ISN'T the case for you at your new school.
Sara
ilovemalcolm
What is in his current IEP (from his old school)? It sounds like he doesn't have the appropriate supports. My son, 5th grade, has an aide and goals in his IEP for organization and independence. He also recieves OT at school to help with self regulation and sensory stuff. Maybe you need to head over to the IEP board and get some help from Steph. She's wonderful.
Samantha