Just not a good week

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Just not a good week
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Sun, 10-22-2006 - 1:03am

Well, I'm still looking for work. Nothing yet.

Nathan is having issues with his schoolwork. He gets lots of his work done at home, because he just doesn't finish it at school. On Friday, his teacher told me that on Thursday (she had marked in his folder that he had a hard day), that Nathan only did 1 thing in class. She couldn't get him to do anything else. He's so slow. Takes forever to do something, and then most of the time he's daydreaming and not focusing. I know this, because this is how he is at home. His teacher didn't tell me this about him. But I know him. When he does his homework, I have to keep refocusing and redirecting him. He just does not want to do the work. He can do it, but keeps saying its hard. Granted there are some things that are difficult for him, but with practice he's coming around.

Its like Tyler was when he was younger...not wanting to do his work. But since Nathan is autistic...its MAGNIFIED!! UUGGHHH!!!

And then tonight, I did something. The boys went to spend the night with STBX. I forgot to pack Nathan's jammies. YES!! I DID THIS!! And when he comes home tomorrow....I will not hear the end of it. STBX did call me to notify me of this, he didn't seem upset, but I know he's not thrilled having to deal with this. I, of course, am upset. I ruined Nathan's evening. I just hope he can sleep.

michelle

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Sun, 10-22-2006 - 9:29am

I hope next week is better. HUGS

Samantha

Samantha
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Sun, 10-22-2006 - 10:13am

You have my sympathies on forgetting to pack something for the overnite. Son would go ballicstic if what he wanted/needed was not in bag. Perhaps dad can buy/have pjs, slippers, mittens,boots, whatever at this house. This will cut down the what is forgotten to be packed.
Of couse this may not work if your child wears only one pair of pjs.

Better times will come.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 10:49am

Do not take any garbage from the STBX over the forgotten PJ's. You forgot them. You're only human and you can't keep everything perfect all the time for your son.

With my son, when I forget to send something with him, I give him the whole speech about how he doesn't need the thing I forgot and it's waiting at home for him. He might explode over it, but he gets over it. It's not forgotten by him, but he settles down. It will be the first thing he asks for when he comes home though.

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Registered: 02-24-2004
Mon, 10-23-2006 - 12:24am

Thanks everyone....I felt just horrible about it.

When they came home this evening, I told Nathan I was sorry for forgetting the jammies. He just looked at me, smiled said that's ok mom....next time you will have to make sure you check. And he said this smiling the whole time!!! Like it was no big deal. I even heard him crying on the phone the night before. It's amazing how they bounce back.

I guess Tyler wasn't feeling well (got a cold now). And kept STBX up most of night! The boys really gave him a time!!! STBX had even called me a second time that night, telling me that I forgot Nathan's "juice medicine" aka melatonin. I had to tell him that Nathan doesn't take it when he takes his benedryl (Nathan has a cold too). Apparently, Nathan had a fit about the juice medicine not being in the bag!! Why would I give him TWO meds to put him to sleep?? These are things only MOM knows!!! I was so worried about the Nathan yesterday.....but today, I kinda thought it was funny that STBX had to go thru all of that, without my help.

michelle

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Mon, 10-23-2006 - 12:45am

Michelle,


I am guessing that your STBX is realizing pretty fast, hgow much you do, and how difficult this stuff really is. I would b epleased about it, but I know it must be tough on the kids. Ity sound like Nathan and Tyler are doing, OK though. ...better than your STBX!!!


Oh. On the schoolwork: It is crazy that they allow you to pick up their classroom deficits. You need to call a meeting or write a letter saying that Nathan needs modification to be redirected and to stay on task. Does he have an aide?

-Paula

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 10-24-2006 - 7:53am

Some days from your posts I think Nathan and Josh are clones LOL.

Like decson said - I make sure my boys have a spare set of pj's/change of clothes at their dad's. Likewise my middle son (who lives with dad) has clothes here. Our big "must not be forgotten or we get nasty phone calls" is their blankets. They each have a no-sew blanket and there's no duplicating those!

The other thing we've found that helps is to send a note along when there are changes (IE - no melatonin due to taking Benedryl) William has allergies and his meds/dosages change depending on the season. I've learned that Jeff can TELL me what's up when we swap kids (and vice versa) but by the time I'm home I forget. Emailling ahead of time works too.

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Tue, 10-24-2006 - 8:12am

(((HUGS))) I hope it gets easier and the boys settle into a routine. I'm glad they bounced back fine.

Betsy