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| Wed, 08-29-2007 - 8:11pm |
For love of whatever is out there.....why is it when we think they are making huge strides we realise all too quickly how short that stride is and how easily they can slip back.
Tonight was testing at karate (it was done during class times this week, so the boys had two sepaarate times to test.) Liam has been up & down the last two weeks but I thought he could make it though tonight ok, as there was a break in between and he had dinner then (protein etc). Well, the problem came with his attitude and behavior towards another Mom (whom I get along with well-we do TKD togther). She asked him to help clean up the wait/play room, which he had helped mess up) and he totally ignored her. Then when she folowed him into the gym (he was trying to exit stage left), it took me a few attempts to get his attention, and his response was...."she needs to worry about her own kids ," meaning my classmate. This btw was announced in front of half a dozen parents and their kids as well as the instructor. I normally let stuff like this not get to me, I deal with it but don't take it to heart. Well this time it did. I made him apologise and clean up. As he's been having attitude issues in general lately (especially wih adults in authority) I told the instructor, no matter his score he wasn't going to earn his belt at awards tomorrow night; he agreed with me. The plan was to wait until his attitude improved.
Thing is when I told Liam in the car on the way home he genuinely could care less "ok Mum, I don't mind." Not defiant...just non-plussed, kwim? In our TKD gym once 2 family members pay and are under contract all other family members are free. Cian and I really enjoy it, but Liam is just not passionate or all the excited anymore. I am about to let him drop it and for Cian and I to keep going. Once Roan's 3 she can start too then.
I don't know what to do....doesn't help that dh is never her anymore as he works late teaching night school most evenings. Tomorrow at awards, dh will pick up Liam anmd Roan and Cian and I will stay...still don't think Liam will care (although he isn't allowed screen time tomorrow while Cian and I are at karate belt awards-that way he gets no positive escape, kwim?)
Sigh
Dee
Edited 8/29/2007 11:09 pm ET by roanmom

(((DEE)))
I wish he loved it and had a great attitude. just stinks that he doesn't-- do you think he's subconsciously having a bad attitude because it's too much sensory input and overstimulating at TQD? We find that Weston will be negative when he doesn't like doing something and then if things about that are taken away-- he doesn't really care, it's enough just to get out of it, yet he can't verbalize it nor does he really understand himself that he doesn't like it anymore.
Betsy
I hear ya! This is why I turned gray at 25yo and have been dying my hair ever since. It's probably good that I don't take TKD like you, or I'd be tempted to unleash on my kid in a situation like yours. He's lucky to have a mom who's as patient as you. I'm sorry he's on a backward slide. I hope it reverses before long.
Dee
Sigh........KWYM....it's so hard to figure these kids out.
Betsy has a good point. Maybe he's "thinking" he can avoid all the stuff that goes along with Karate, dealing with parents, cleaning up, apologizing.....etc.... Perhaps he's relieved that he won't have to put up with any of that other stuff that goes along with the Karate,though he still may enjoy Karate itself if all that other stuff is daunting for him, then that might do it
Sam has that feeling about cleaning up too. It's so hard to start any kind of cleaning for him. He gets overwhelmed and needs help starting. He wants to know when we're going to get a servant (yes, he says servant.)
Sam loves Karate, though he hates practising. And he thinks that if he gives us a hard time about going, he'll get to watch tv all night. I have no idea where our children get these notions; I'd never let that happen in a million years, but Sam still gets it stuck in his head constantly! Argh.....
Do you think he'll understand what he missed out on when he sees Cian, you and everyone else with new belts, but he didn't get one? It might be hard for him to appreciate it until he sees it.
Good luck on belt promotion night......we get to give Sam his yellow belt next Fri. I'm such a big baby, I hope I don't cry! LOL
Chrystee