Kids can be so cruel...

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Registered: 11-12-2007
Kids can be so cruel...
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Mon, 12-10-2007 - 4:19pm

My PDD-NOS DS went to a birthday party for another 5yo on Saturday. It was no surprise he did not want to play with other kids. It was at a bowling alley that also had pool tables. Justin didn't want to bowl, and just wanted to collect all the pool stick chalks and line them up. He threw a temper tantrum when one boy would not give him a last chalk cube. When it was time for cake, he ate mostly with his hands and made a huge mess as his fine motor skills are not well-developed. Other kids saw this and made fun of him: "look, he's eating like a baby; he's a mess like a little baby." They were all giggling as they were saying this about him. Justin, understanding very little social cues, was totally oblivious of the fact that other kids were being mean to him. But I was so livid; I reprimanded them and made them apologize for being mean and making fun of an innocent person. Afterwards, I locked myself in the bathroom and cried my eyes out. This is the first time (at least where I was a witness) other kids made fun of him, and I am sure it will not be the first time. As a parent, I cannot be there for him all the time to protect him, and I feel so sad and helpless.

On the positive side, Justin had two successful play-dates with his best friend in another kindergarten class. Max came over a couple of times. They really like each other. I asked Justin why he liked Max, and his reply was "because he likes *me*!" Also, I am looking forward to the meeting that the school is arranging in January for IEP eligibility. I wrote them a letter and attached the medical professionals' diagnoses about Justin's PDD-NOS and ADHD. I am cautiously optimistic that he may get additional services via an IEP.

-- Innie

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Mon, 12-10-2007 - 6:23pm

Hugs to you.

                                

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Tue, 12-11-2007 - 9:06am

I am sending out big hugs to you!

 


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Tue, 12-11-2007 - 3:32pm

(((Innie))) I'm so sorry that you had to deal with this situation. It's really hard to hear others make ugly comments about our children. I heard some kids say something about Lily once that I think she was oblivious to. But, it hurt me and brought me to tears. I hope that Justin's friendship with Max continues to go well and that he can get the services he needs at school.

Amy~Natalie & Lily's mom

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Tue, 12-11-2007 - 6:34pm

Thanks for all your support. The sad thing is that one of the kids who made fun of my Justin is the son of my best friend. I feel like this incidence is putting distance between us, more from my part than hers. I feel like I need to protect my son from anyone who do not mean well, including any children who may be too young to even know better. Her son Nico also said that Justin is NOT his friend. I asked Justin whether he liked Nico. He said, "yes, because he has lots of cool toys!" Sigh. So I told Justin that that's not the reason to like someone, that you need to like someone for who they are and not what they have. I also told him that Max is a true friend because he likes you for being you. When Max came over for his first play date, I asked Justin to ask Max what he wants to play with. When Justin asked exactly that, Max replied, "I want to play with YOU!" Sweet.

-- Innie

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