kids sharing a bed?

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Tue, 12-06-2005 - 2:32pm

Just curious, do any of your kids sleep in the same bed?

At this point in time, our boys (4 and 8) are wanting to snuggle up together as they fall asleep. They have 2 twin beds, which doesn't leave much room. David falls asleep first, because he's on melatonin (long story, but it's TOTALLY necessary), and then Nathan usually walks over to his bed for more room.

I sometimes think if they shared a full sized bed, that would work well. I realize sleeping arrangements are very much a cultural thing, and what seems strange to one family might be the norm in another. So I'm curious about whether any of your kids share a bed.

Evelyn

David, 8; Nathan, 4

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Tue, 12-06-2005 - 3:20pm

I have a girl and a boy. They have separate rooms. My dd sometimes come in with us if she wakes at night, but we discourage this, and reward her for staying in her own bed. It's not for any big moral or prudish reason, I just don't sleep too well if the bed is overcrowded! (DH would sleep through a marching band tramping across the bedroom).

My sister and I used to often share a bed when we were about David/Nathan's ages. it was comforting and in a house where the bedrooms weren't heated; often necessary. I don't see the harm in it, if it makes them feel better.

The only problem which may arise is if one child wants to end the arrangement and the other doesn't. The second child may feel hurt and rejected.

-Paula

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Tue, 12-06-2005 - 3:28pm

Evelyn,

My boys each have their own room. They have been known to lay inside the covers and watch TV together...but that was when they were younger. They do still like to share a bed when we go out of town though. Sleeping in a hotel is tons of fun for them.

As Tyler gets older, he's not liking it as much anymore!!! But Nathan still loves cuddles!!! As a family, we do all still cuddle up in bed in the mornings sometimes and also before they go to bed at night. But I don't think they'd like sharing a bed all the though.

michelle

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Tue, 12-06-2005 - 11:36pm

Evelyn,

I've had a nagging in my head about this post all day. and I just figured it out: It's the old computer saying: "If it's not broke, don't fix it". I.e. your boys seem to have found a groove which works for them: They snuggle, David falls asleep, Nathan stumbles back to his own bed and falls asleep too. I don't see anything wrong with this picture. Why not leave things as they are? Or am I missing something?

-Paula

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Wed, 12-07-2005 - 8:09am

I was going to say the same thing as Paula... I think it's very sweet that they want to snuggle together, but if you buy them one big bed, you're kind of making the decision final. Then if they decide they *don't* want to snuggle anymore, you're kind of stuck!

Jennifer

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Wed, 12-07-2005 - 11:11am
My kids are three and one... we recently put them in a room together hoping my three year old would actually stay in his room. It didn't work. I honestly think whatever the kids are happiest with, as long as it's appropriate go for it! Recently my older son wanted to sleep in the crib with the baby, no way hehehe! He is very aggressive with him still. But I have a double bed waiting for the two when they are ready for it!