Kind of ashamed to say this, but...
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| Sat, 03-04-2006 - 12:24am |
Lately, my kids have been so obnoxious, so messy, so rude, and just so irritating, that I keep finding myself thinking that I just don't *like* them very much. Now, of course, I do love them SOOOOOOOO much, with all my heart. But, OMG! they are driving me nuts.
In all fairness, I think David needs his medication tweaked a bit. But both of them, when they are together, have these *stupid* conversations in loud voices. A conversation for them is like this:
Nathan: Hey David, what if it wasn't "spaghetti" but "poopfarty"?
David: No, what if it was a peanut BUTT sandwich?
Nathan: Yeah! No, penis butt sandwich!!
David: HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!! Somebody shoot me in the eye with a machine gun!!!!! HAAAAAAAA!!!!
Nathan: No! A BUTT MACHINE GUN WITH BULLETS THAT ARE SHAPED LIKE A BIG STINKY BUTT!!!!
David: Nathan, did you know ham is pig butt? It is. They take a real pig and chop off his butt. Is that cool? I said is that cool? ANSWER ME!!!!!!
That's the kind of stuff they say to each other ALL DAY LONG. It just wears me out.
And while they are talking, they are playing, usually with Legos, in a way that involves carelessly scattering Legos and other small objects onto every surface. When they eat, blobs of food end up on the table, chair and rug. (Some genius who lived here previously put a brown shag carpet in the dining area, probably in 1972.)
I just had to get this off my chest. It's not always so bad, but it has been lately, and I'm exhausted. And if one more person says, "Mom, lookit" to me while my back is turned and I'm loading the dishwasher or something, I'm gonna scream. LOL!
Yeah, I need a break. We used to have a babysitter who came for a few hours about once every month or two, but she hasn't returned our calls. I don't know anyone else. It's probably been like five or six months since we got a break.
Well, gotta go do some bedtime stuff.
Evelyn

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Sending you chocolates and a good bottle of wine+++++++++++++
You really need to find a new babysitter. We do too by the way. My dh just put up a sign in the window of his shop looking for a sitter. Hopefully someone will answer it, someone good that is. Luckily for us I talked my sister into letting her daugter babysit for us tonight. We haven't had a date in ages. Have you considered placing a flyer up in local churches or schools or in the paper? I hope you get some time away soon.
If Kyle had a brother I know they'd be talking like your boys all the time too. He loves the potty gross talk.
Samantha
Evelyn,
I'm sorry things have been sooo hectic lately! My boys used to do the potty talk too...but they don't do it so much anymore. They've moved on to "whining".....I guess they figure that this tortures me MORE!!! And they are right, it DOES!!
But I have decided to ignore the whining. And now the whining is going away. I have no idea what is next on their agenda!!!
hugs!
michelle
Evelyn, I know that none of it is amusing to you, but I have to say your post made me laugh out loud! And yes, that's because I only have one boy and he's only 2 years old. I'm sure I won't be laughing in a few year's time when he's talking about butts and penises! LOL
About needing a babysitter, I'm there with you. Recently I was considering asking at the local university, which has an education school. I'm wondering if there are any graduate students getting a degree in special ed who'd like some extra money; at least then I know that they'd be a little bit older and somewhat experienced dealing with special needs kids... I just don't feel comfortable asking the 14-year old down the street, you know? For now, DH and I are trading nights out. Tonight he's out with a buddy of his, but in a couple of weeks I have a date planned with some of my friends. Plus each of us are taking a class during the week: Mondays I go to a knitting class and Wednesdays he goes to a sculpture class. What I'd really love is a night out with my husband, of course! But at least both of us get to decompress every once in a while...
Jennifer
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(((((Hugs))))))))) It's especially hard when you need to get away, but can't. I hope you can find someone to help out.
I only have one, but she likes to say "hineys" and "stinkies" like all day long sometimes and it drives me nuts. We are fortunate to have our inlaws to watch her or my mother and brother, but we don't use them too often. We were able to get out two weeks ago and that helped. The hard part is I am the main caretaker, DH doesn't have to put up with it like I do, but then again, I don't think he can. See my new post.
Debbie
I totally know where you are coming from. Sam thinks any kind of potty talk is absolutely the most hilarious thing ever. I have to say that your play by play coversation had me ROFLMAO though! But I can imagine that by the end of the day you're burnt out.
We don't have a baby sitter either. I don't know anyone and I don't really want to leave the youngest with someone inexperienced. The inlaws are somewhat helpful, but I only like to ask them for a favor once in awhile. They're not great about structure and don't like coming to our house.
I definately think a glass of wine would go a long way here!
Chrystee
This is such a boy thing. Soooooo annoying, but such a boy thing.
And sometimes I joke about leaving town, changing my name, so don't come lookin' for me. I know how you feel. I know you love your kids, and that I love mine. But it would be so nice if they came with an off button.
I'm new and haven't even introduced myself, but your post reminded me of my two boys so much. We call it potty humor. Farts, butts, and any type of bodily function is their favorite type of humor. Fortunately, they don't do it in public (much). But my older son has a friend that when they were four got so obnoxious with it. His friend's mom and I are friends and we would both yell, "Cut out the potty humor!" and look at each other in disgust. Her son is highly gifted (way off the charts) and mine has Asperger's. Then my younger son just has some sensory over sensitivity, but otherwize is "normal" (whatever that is). He's four and a half now and is really, really into fart jokes. Geesh! It's something about mastering all those potty habits, I think. I really don't know. But I feel your pain, LOL!
Hi Evelyn,
Wow! My 2 girls don't talk that way... and Jack (PDD-NOS and 4.5) doesn't say too much, and it's only about food.
But I'm gonna' throw out there what a friend of mine does. When her DS and his friends start the bathroom talk then it's INTO THE BATHROOM. They can only talk that way in the bathroom, which loses it's appeal quickly. Her DS is/was PDD-NOS, so it may be a helpful idea.
Hang in there,
Cathy
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Dear Evelyn,
You just crack me up. You really should write, I think so. Maybe there's a sitcom needing to be written about living with our kids? Could be big bucks in it...
Anyways, here's my opinion (like I'm shy with those LOL). Having a sitter or 3 or 5 is so essential for raising special needs children. You have to put finding them and teaching them and your kids how to work together HIGH UP on the To-Do list. Ensuring quality of life is not possible without good childcare when you are a parent, esp. special needs.
But it is so much more work for us, finding, training and kepping good sitters. Still, it's been my experience that having at least one very good sitter who is willing to build a strong relationship with our ds has also been very helpful in our son's development! As he can have mutiple relationships with different grownups, and that has helped him in independence and also in learning to make friends with different kinds of kids.
We have gotten our sitters from our circles of friends, from graduate students who are going into special needs, and from referrals, particularly from other special needs parents. Our current main babysitter is the sister of a beloved long-term babysitter of one of ds' best friends. Sometimes they "double-date", sisters hang with sisters and best friends with best friends, win-win.
I would not be still married if dh and I did not have one night a week special and separate, "Date Night". We do spell each other during the week otherwise so we both get breaks besides our date. In the last couple years, we have added another great win-win option to hiring sitters, which is playdates at other kids' houses and sleepovers!!! Heaven.
And I'm slipping --- I used to have lots of active and available sitters, now I really only have 3 which means sometimes I get stuck as they may not be available when I need one... Gotta get back to work on building my sitter list.
yours,
Sara
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