May I interrupt w/ a question?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
May I interrupt w/ a question?
Sun, 05-04-2003 - 1:54pm
Hello All ~~

I don't want to intrude here but this is the first time I've seen this board and I have a question --ok, maybe a couple but I'll start with the obvious one-- what exactly is asperger's syndrome? My SIL was told that her son, who's 7, has this but whenever DH or I ask her or MIL about it, we get hush-hush and very short answers. And mainly they say things like, "you see how he's moving his hands? That's it" Okay, to me "that" just looks like a kid who's excited, nothing harmful. And other things they mention just seem to me like a kid acting out against authority and the dissolution of his parents marriage. In other words, they just seem to me like "attention getters".

Again, I don't want to be intruding but I genuinely would like to know as would my DH. His family never tells him anything until after the fact as well as seeming to make mountains out of mole-hills and he doesn't want to see this child be put thru tests and stuff unless it's really necessary.

Thanks in advance for your patience,


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 05-05-2003 - 12:38am
Thank you so much for interupting. I think it is awesome that you want to learn more about it!

Asperger's is a milder autism spectrum disorder. It is a neurological impairment that shares a number of qualities with autism, except there is generally no delays in language or cognitive abilities. In plain language they are of "normal intelligence". Some of the difficulties common with asperger's are social difficulties. Some will not be very socially outgoing, others will be outgoing but not understand social rules. For instance they may say very "truthfull" yet hurtful things. You know when a very small child may make a comment about someone being fat or such, they will continue much older with those kinds of things. They often have areas of interest that overwhelm all other areas and will talk about them without really caring if the other person is interested or not. They frequently have difficulty with change and are quite rigid about a number of things. They often have trouble with language in understanding things that are not concrete such as idioms, figures of speech and jokes.

Asperger's varies widely from person to person in how it presents itself and how severe the symptoms will be.

There is a great webiste called OASIS. Do a search for OASIS and asperger's and it should easily come up. It has gobs of information. There is also a great book called "Your Life is not a Label" by Jerry Newport. He is an adult with Asperger's and has wonderful insight.


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Thu, 05-08-2003 - 6:15pm