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| Tue, 01-09-2007 - 11:35pm |
When it comes to inlaws.
Today I got an email from one BIL to all the family early with some wierd statement about friday was the day that worked best. It woudl be $40 per person in this rich city. Any questions, call.
Ok, so I emailed back. Yeah I got a question, what the HE!! are you talking about?
I guess they have all discussed and decided it would be fun for all the adults to go out together without kids to some fancy dinner for Restaurant week in San Diego.
I write back that I had never heard of this and it would have been nice to be notified a little more in advance or be part of the plan to help plan for sitting. Never mind that I didn't want to get into the fact that we don't have $80 to throw around on Dinner. PLUS I have been working REALLY hard on my diet and some $40 3 course meal would just blow that out of the water. I know they don't know that stuff so I won't blame them for that, but they do know the kid issues or at least we have tried.
Well I get another email that MIL and FIL have volunteered to babysit ALL the kids together so we can go.
WELL HE!! NO! I am sick of it. How many times do they need to see Mike fall apart and meltdown before they get that these big multi-kid events are NOT good for him. Plus, after FIL's attitude with Mike on Christmas eve I am not leaving him there without me.
So now I am the bad guy because I have said I am not going. I don't want to go. I have NO friggen desire to go. I am not leaving Mike in that situation so I can go. So I am the bad person again.
The can all go to he!!.
Renee (who is quite grumpy on 1200 cals a day - I better get friggen skinny soon)


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nah, I don't think it's all the family either....I had a dream (or was it a daydream?) that ds's school had to close down because of a malfunction in the boiler (it's an old building).
Renee
big (hugs) and a nibble of chocloate :)
You have every right to say you are NOT going
As for Inlaws babysit, I hate when my DS melts down cause mommy goes out. Sadly it's my OWN father he freaks out over.
I blame my father for NOT making the effort to be part of DS life.
Tell them you're not going, and you don't have to say a thing more.
In the mean time, think HAPPY thoughts of skinny jeans.
I on the side of the fence, feel it all getting snug
I truly don't want to sport "fat" pants till March.
Is it true that the second one you "pop" out quicker. God only knows
Love
nora
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Cant' reply to all in my cheap membership, DANG. Someday I am going to take the jump and pay for this.
Deb - Not getting skinny for you, but for me! You just get to see the outcome I HOPE! I was just thinking about that earlier today how mid march was one of my goal dates and that will be when you are here. I was already planning fun stuff for the kids to do together.
Nora, I feel for you on the other side. Been there 4 times on the getting fat thing. I miss little ones but I SOOO don't miss being preggers. However, right now I am so sad that my baby turns 7 this months.
After 7 years it might be time to lose the baby fat though.
Renee
Nope Renee darlin, this has nothing to do with sensitivity or 1200 calories a day. Your inlaws, much like mine, don't have a clue. Sorry to be so blunt, but it's the stinkin' truth and you know it way better than I do.
We JUST had this same situation happen on New Years Eve. Traditionally the inlaws keep the kids that night, and DH and I go out. This year they were going to have the "other two" grandkids also, and I find the behavior of "those two" completely unacceptable. So, we dropped our plans. This REALLY made MIL angry...but too bad for her. When my autistic kids are 20X's better behaved than HER FAVORITE "normal" grandkids...well, let's just say I prefer not to expose my kids to "those two" when I'm not around.
Gawd...I hope we get to move soon. The farther away, the better. (BUT, I'm sorry Renee and Paula, we won't be moving to NYC or Cali.)
(((((Renee))))) Big hugs to you and major kudos on 1200 calories/day!
Amy
Thanks Amy!
I haven't had the fall out yet from my decision not to go but I expect it at any time. DH will probably get the comments and then he will tell them to bring it up with me. On the one hand I understand his point that she should bring up her problems with me actually WITH ME and not put him in the middle. On the other I am pissed at him because he always makes me look like the bad guy. Heck, it was Renee's decision ask her kind of thing. Oh well, I don't particularly give a hoot today. Other things on my mind, (separate post) and I don't have the energy to deal with *them*.
Renee
Has nothing to do w/ sensitivity or crabbiness. Has all to do w/ self-centered I thinking!
My inlaws are like this too! I'm so sick of being expected to come 1/2 way across the country for a one night event (usually a wedding & reception) where all the adults are expected to come and the kids are forbidden. There are no "relatives" to leave the kids w/ because they're all expected to be at said event and yet, I know no one to leave my kids with. My sensory defensive quirky kids. DH usually goes to said event and has to explain why I'm not there-- then for the next 10 years I have to hear 'why didn't you come?' or 'oh, that was the wedding you couldn't find an appropriate sitter for!' in a snotty tone of voice. Thankfully, Dh often good to put SIL or BIL in their place when they start something like this.
Bleh-- throw all the IL's into the deepest ravine and leave them there!
on a good note-- CONGRATS on getting the diet going and doing well, bleh on a 3 course meal, you can splurge on a nice dinner at home that doesn't blow the weight loss out of the water for much less than $40! good for you!
Betsy
Dear Renee,
Little ever-reliable notes from the personal trainer/weight loss expert on the board, IMHO 1200 cal is VERY low amount for a high-stress, active lifestyle (even though I understand you don't always manage a formal "workout", you are still very, very BUSY.)
1500 cal. a day might serve you better... You will lose slowly and evenly and just that 300 more calories will help your nervous system relax more and function better. You don't want to ADD stress, just that that will be an eating plan doomed to fail. I am not completely against counting calories in a balanced way, make every calorie count in a nutritional, fibrous, energy-building way. And I do know you are quite the expert on providing great nutrition for others. But beware the grouchies, they are an indicator that you are letting your system run on too little for your needs.
Sara
Sara, You would be proud of me. I am mixing it up. On days I am really busy or working I am eating more like 1400 and others days at around 1200 just to keep my body guessing. Of course, all high fiber, etc. I have been doing strength training daily focusing on my legs to stengthen the knee and it is getting better slowly. I messed up yesterday and tried to wear sandals for a little bit. OUCH! I am keeping my aerobic to the walking I do at work which is extensive and inolves alot of weight (usually a 30lb backpack plus extra binders and boxes). But over all my knee is getting alot better thanks to yours and Amy's advice. Still gonna train for a 5k in the spring but Mike wants to do swimming not running so I am cool with that. Maybe once he sees mom doing it he will join in but knee is not running ready yet. Oh and I have an appt with the doc in a couple weeks.
and to everyone with regards to the first post, thank you again for the support. DH actually got stuck on the phone with his mom last night over this deal and he did well. He didn't even bring up the Mike thing. He told them he didn't want to drive the 1 1/2 hours up from San Diego to dress and turn around and go back in the horrible Friday Traffic. AND that he and I were both watching our weight and currently trying to lose plus we just didn't have that kind of money to spend on a meal at this time that we wouldn't be able to enjoy due to diet.
Mike only came up with regards to Special Olympics, which they balked at at first, but DH explained well and they were on board by the end.
Renee
Renee,
Chiming in a bit late to offer my support.
ITA with you! If I were in your situation, I would do the same! BTW, I"M HUNGRY TOO! LOL.
Chrissy
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