Meltdown or Trantrum? Sorry, its long
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|Sun, 08-22-2010 - 8:55pm|
My son was diagnosed with Aspergers in March. This was after 4 different doctors agreed on the diagnosis (I wanted to be sure). A week ago we had an "event". I homeschool my son this year. I felt I cant tell teachers how to deal with my child if I dont know what they are dealing with. I am taking this year to re-learn my child. We had just gotten done doing school for that day and had just finished a mine-shaft project. We were outside and as he came back in he slammed him thumb in the door. He got mad and started yelling that he didnt like hurting himself. I sd "Baby, no one does, but it happens. Its no big deal". I had him come down and help me move the outside table upstairs to balcony. He was crying a little and he keep dropping the table every couple steps. I sd "Baby its really not that heavy." He loudly (not really yelling just emphasis) said "Too me it is!" A warning bell went off. We exercise in the afternoon, so I left the table where it was, half in half out of the house, and suggested we exercise. I explained to him that exercise brings oxygen into the body and endorphins kick in and it will get his thumb off his mind and he will feel better. He SCREAMED "NO!!" Started just frantically crying and yelling. I told him to relax go upstairs and take ten minutes and get himself back together. He goes upstairs and I am hearing crying, yelling, screaming, punching, and "Why can't I stop? Why can't I stop?" I go running upstairs and he is freaking out screaming "Why can't I stop crying, what is wrong with me?" He is shaking and screaming, he is hyperventilating and has wet all over himself. I am shaking but just telling him, its ok, no big deal. We all have bad days, this is just a bad day, I have him breathing in a bag. I get him up and make him do a big breathing thing, which ticks him off but its that jolt and he stops freaking out. He finally calms down but has a hold of me and doesnt want to let go, He is exhausted. An hour later its like nothing ever happened.
I called a friend of mine that has a BS in Psychology and her response was that his butt needed to be busted for throwing a fit, he wanted attention, or was ticked off bc I mentioned exercise (which later I sd we are going to exercise and he sd ok and went and got his shoes). Then she finally just says "He is going to have to get over and deal. I am sorry that he has issues and he is going to have to work ten times harder at all the things that we do everyday, but life sucks and he is going to have to deal." I told her while that may be the truth, maybe she could have been more compassionate about it.