MET/IEP Meetigs Monday . . . m

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Registered: 03-31-2003
MET/IEP Meetigs Monday . . . m
Fri, 05-16-2003 - 3:44pm
Well, I have been lurking here for a month or two because my oldest son who is 9 was just diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome - also diagnosed with ADHD, depression and anxiety.

Monday, after lots of circus games with the SD, we are having our MET meeting followed by the IEP Meeting (we agreed to having it right after if possible). So far it has been a very stressful experience and lots of hang-ups along the way. The school does not agree with the our specialists that DS has AS. They say he is emotionally impaired. This is a source of much debate.

Does anyone have any advice? Have any of you had this problem with EI vs. AI label?

We have an advocate so I feel good about that.

I just feel like I am in over my head! I don't even know how to help DS at home, let alone what he will need at school.

Any help would be very appreciated. . .


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 05-16-2003 - 9:14pm
Hi, my 10 yr. old dd was just diagnosed this yr. I tried to get an IEP last yr. to no avail. Her 4th gr, teacher noticed something was wrong & so did I, but I was in denial! I finally went to the peds. because her teacher told me if you get a diagnosis it's easier to get an IEP. Finally after 2 yrs. we did! She has ADD without the hyper. and AS. She hated school & the homework. I was at wits end. Things are much better & it has only been a month. Do whatever it takes for your son. I was going to hire an advocate too. Good thing you did! The schools will try to keep you out of special ed (as it is the most expensive program they offer.) Good Luck with the IEP. MaryAnn
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Registered: 04-26-2003
Sun, 05-18-2003 - 7:30pm
It seems that if your son had a professional diagnosis of AS, the school should not be able to disagree, but instead must honor that evaluation. My 7yo ds was diagnosed last year with PDDNOS, although he has every symptom of Aspergers Syndrome. At a recent IEP, his school nurse and special ed teacher suggested he be retested to get an official diagnosis of AS, because "it will be better for him." The previous poster is right--do whatever you can for your son--keep doing what you think is best for him!

It all is very confusing and frustrating-- you are not alone!