Mikey is having a sad end of school

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Mikey is having a sad end of school
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Fri, 06-13-2003 - 12:41pm
Today is the last day of school and poor little guy doesn't do change very well. Not only is he leaving first grade and changing teachers but the school is changing principals. This principal has been there forever is well loved and his leaving has been made a big deal.

Mike has been stressed and extra difficult in school and home the last 3 weeks or so. He has been biting and sucking on his shirt for about 2 weeks. 2 days ago started biting on his arms and leaving little hicky/bruise marks.

Then there is today. The school had a big Mr. Goldenburg send off at the begining of the day. Every Friday all 1st - 5th graders get together outside to do the "Bulldog Boogie" adn national anthem. It is a performing arts school so they have there own song they have written and recorded complete with a choreographed dance. Today was "Mr. Goldenburg's last Bulldog Boogie". They did the usual stuff along with a number of special things done by different classes to honor the principal ending with a huge bulldog boogie with the whole school (K-8) and all the parents. Whole thing Lasted an hour.

Well at the end on the way in to school Mike was in tears. He looked totally shaken up and the front of his shirt was soaked from chewing on it. I didn't get to check out his arms yet. He had sat with his class in the front and parents in the back. I felt horrible because had I been thinking about how stressed he would be or had noticed during the thing I would have pulled him out to the playground or something.

I feel so bad for the poor guy. I went to see him at his class and asked if he wanted to go for a walk, but he was being the tough guy and said, No thanks mom.

Can't wait until today is done. Think I will take him for an ice cream.

Renee

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Fri, 06-13-2003 - 9:01pm
Oh, poor Mike. I wish there was something I could recomend to make things better for him. Jade is the same way about change. She gets very stressed out and starts picking at every single scab on her body. If she can't find a scab she picks at her toes until they bleed. But with puberty setting in she has plenty of blemishes to mangle right now. Okay, maybe that was too much information, sorry.

I don't know what to say about the change from school to summer vacation. With our homeschooling we pretty much have school all the time. But it's different, it's not like sitting at a desk all the time, so the kids really don't miss 'vacation'. Infact, the few times we've tried to 'break' for whatever reason they have gotten really upset and we always went back to schooling earlier than we had planned. We learned a long time ago to 'downshift' from the normal routine to unschooling when we had something that interfeared with daily life. It helps the kids a lot because then not EVERYTHING changes for them, only a few things.

Make sure and feed him plenty of icecream. maybe over the weekend you guys can talk about all the things your going to do over the summer? This might help give him the feeling that that structure hasn't completely left his life and may make things easier for him.

Btw, what ARE you guys doing over the summer? You told me before that you had a vacation planned but I can't remeber when. We are still trying to get down to Oceanside for a visit and it would be nice to plan the trip for when we can get together with you and Mary Anne. That would be wonderful. The three of us need to get together and compare schedules. Let me know.

Candes

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Sat, 06-14-2003 - 12:12am
Hi Renee, sorry to hear that Mike is having a hard time. Sarah reminds me ALOT of him. She used to chew her shirt ALL the time when she was younger, but as of the last yr. or so, has given that up. Sarah gets really attached to people & feels bad when we don't see them again. She REALLY liked her softball coach. He was kind, patient, and took time to work with Sarah since it was her 1st season. The season ended a month ago & she says "I still miss coach Mike Mom!" It is sweet that he is so sensitive. With budget cuts our school has 3 teachers retiring who have been there as long as 35 yrs. Her school is OLD! Anyway, we had a school dance function yesterday & I cried when they talked about the teachers retiring, it is a sad moment, so I can feel for Mike. I hope as time goes on he will become less upset & you can talk about the principal without him getting sad. We still have another week of school left for Sarah. My older dd graduated middle school today. I didn't cry, but I did when she left elementary. I am so nervous about high school next yr. She will have 900 in her freshman class!! Torrey Pines is so overcrowded. Sarah is going to summer school for the month of July since her teacher feels she could use the review. She is not happy at all about this. She would rather read Harry Potter over & over or play Gameboy. The new Harry Potter book will be out soon, I'm sure she'll be obsessed with it for awhile. Other than that, we will make our annual trek back east in Aug. I'm glad Katie will be on the same schedule as your son next yr. It'll be easier on you and her. Enjoy your summer & keep in touch- MaryAnn