Like missing the first steps

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Like missing the first steps
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Mon, 05-08-2006 - 7:10pm

Today Mike's aide shared that he had a fabulous day. He was interactive and conversational. He told her about a new video game he had, about my trip to Arizona last november and how that was bad. About the t-shirt I bought him. NOt that he had normal conversation, it is still one sided but it happens. Ms. Kelly said she let him talk to her all day long because it is so rare and she enjoys these moments.

Mike has these moments where everything is aligned just right and it is those moments I live for. So I was looking forward to it, but all I got all the way home was repetitive "fafaburger" and "I flushed my brain down the toilet". Wouldn't even respond to questions about what he had done today, what he wanted for snack, or joking around with him.

UGH, I am jealous and I am going to go sulk now.

Renee

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Mon, 05-08-2006 - 9:38pm

(((((Renee))))))


I had one of those days yesterday, so I totally understand.

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 12:15am
Renee,
I know what you mean! I live for those days of clarity with Jake and when it seems like we are totally in tune with each other and having a "normal" mother/son conversation not based around the solar system.This week is a good week with him but I know sooner or later he'll be back to his comfort zone of talking constantly about planets and comets.I know you wish you had shared that special time with Mike today but at least he is trying to connect with his aide socially and thats always a positive.((HUGS))
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 2:02am

Renee,

Mike and David need to get together sometime. (I ought to post a picture; I think they even look similar.) That "I flushed my brain down the toilet" stuff is SOOOOO like David!
We get, "I'm an idiotical Roman!" Or, "What's That?? Is it a NOSE-PICKER??" with appropriate (or inappropriate, depending on how you look at it) hand gestures.

This year, he does spent a little bit of time telling me about a few "real things, like something that happened at school. But for the most part, when he talks to me he is running and leaping back and forth, talking non-stop about how Takeshi lead the battle machines up the Sentai Mountain to find the evil robots, but they were sucked into a black hole and ended up in the Time of the Dinosaurs, blah blah blah. It's nice that he's creative, but it's torturous being forced to listen to it day in and day out for eight years.

And as for not responding to questions about what he wants for a snack....We get that, too. When we get home after school, he needs food immediately or he will snap. However, the instant he walks in the door, he goes into "must start project, and needs help from Mom" mode, or is already in "must talk incessantly" mode, so he isn't available to answer questions about snacks. Then, when I least expect it, he shouts, "MOM! I'm starving!!! I need food immediately!!! You know I'm hungry! Why haven't you gotten me some food?! Now I'm too hungry to eat!!! waaaaaaahhh You idiot! I hate you!" (Actually, today, he stopped himself before saying "idiot" or "hate you." I was very proud of him, because I could see that he was making the effort.)

Sure is fun, isn't it. I can't remember, how old is Mike? 9? 10?

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 8:22am
How disappointing! I hope, as my sisters says, "all the stars align just right" for him again soon!
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 12:30pm
That's too bad you missed the opportunity. But your Mike needs to have inter-action with others in his life, too. Like every kid growing up, they have to expand their horizons beyond mom & dad.
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 1:10pm

Renee, that's so great! I remember when Nathan was in kindy...his teacher told me that he was talking to another classmate during class (while she was talking!). She said that she usually reminds the kids to be quiet while she is speaking, but couldn't bring herself to do it because it was the first time she saw him HAVE A CONVERSATION!!! lol

I always get excited when Nathan shares information with me, it's very rare!

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 1:15pm

Bummer.

Still, it's good that he had that period of connectedness. I wonder if it's the first of several? Maybe he is coming out of the 'change of season' funk our kids often seem to hit early in the year, and you will see more of that connected Mike in the coming months. I suspect so. Our kids are so alike sometimes:

Peter has been much more connected in the past week or so. Usually he won't tell me anything that has been going on in school, but recently, I have been hearing about the butterfly project, and how one of the butterflies emerged and they named it "Tickle". So much information, in fact that my darling Siobhan, who usually gets to monopolise the conversation on the way home, has been sulking and complaining that she doesn't get a word in edgeways! (Now *that* was a first!)

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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 7:07pm

Dear Renee,

Just wanted to add a quick hello and I hope you enjoyed your sulk. If you're gonna sulk, might as well really indulge, I say!

Yes, ditto what others said, it's so good he's comfortable to open up with others as well. Being Mom usually meeans WE get all the goodies, but yes, it is a good sign when there are other trusted souls as well.

BTW, when Malcolm is listing the people he loves in his life in numerical order from most to least loved, I am and have been for quite awhile No. 2! After No. 1, the girlfriend in TX who he wants to marry... Dad is No. 3, then starts the best pals, then family, etc. Every once in awhile he will refer to one of his friends by number, as if I should remember which one is where in the lineup!

Sara
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