momma said there'd be days like this

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momma said there'd be days like this
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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 4:33pm

so i invited her over this afternoon to see it. son mmmmmelted. he screamed, yelled,tipped furniture, used bad words, said bad things about people and felt unloved. mom came over and we calmly chatted. trying to engage son about what was bothering him, his actions and that he had to leave to visit his dad.

a year ago this situation would have upset me. the words he used would have embarrassed me. now i know that this is the way son is. me getting upset doesn't help anything. i've learned to take care of myself before i can help him. somedays that advice is very hard to follow.

son screeched at my mom. i guess he is comfortable with her. when he is sad or excited he calls her. at some point i will make him apologize for the words. the actions she knows he has little control over.

as i took son to visit his dad, he calmed a bit. son won't melt with dad. son asked if son & i could be on good behavior when tonite's visit is over. "yes, honey" was apparently the wrong answer because he started getting upset all over again.

i have come to appreciate the good moments and to tolerate the bad moments.

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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 4:44pm

-Paula

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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 9:06pm

oh he saves everything for me. transitions are very difficult for son and wednesdays can be the pits. today was the worst it has been in several months. when i picked son up he leaned or what i call "saddled up" to me and briefly touched my fingers. this is his sign of affection for me. he came home, finished homework, had a snack & is in bed reading. whatever came over him seems to be gone.

spring fever? bad moon? increased precipitation? banshees in his head? i just don't know.

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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 9:34pm

((((HUGS)))) hope whatever it was is gone for awhile! I'll keep you in my prayers as well. sounds like it was rough!

Betsy

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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 7:37am
thank you. that's very kind of you :)