Mothers day

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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 1:53am

Well mine has been a bit strange today. I want to post about it on FB (just to let my ivilliage FB friends know) but I can't because I'm not sure all of my extended family who live far, far away are aware of the news yet. So I hold off until I know for sure.

My mother may of had a stroke. She is in the hospital and they are not quite sure if she has had one yet. Let me explain.

Today my dh and I, along with the kids were going to his sisters house 2 1/2 hours away to celebrate MD. My Mother, oldest dd (23) and my sister didn't want to drive that far so they were going to celebrate it here at home.

5 min before we got to my SIL's house I got the phone call from my sister. Apparently my mother did not show up for the pancake breakfast or the church service she was planning on attending. My Sister and her dh went to her house and she wasn't answering the door and her car was in the driveway. They went to her bedroom window and were banging on it and they heard my mom say she couldn't get up. They got a hold of the landlord and he let them in.

She was coherent and awake, but my sister said she had no balance and her speech was slurred. They got a robe around her and decided to call an ambulance instead of driving her to the hospital. I guess she was doing somewhat okay because when the ambulance workers showed up and asked her how old she was my sister said 78 and my mother quickly said "No I'm 68" LOL. You would have to know my mother to know this is funny lol. She is always 59 again if you get my drift lol.

So my sister went in the ambulance and all of a sudden one of the guys said something (I guess something changed in her eyes) and they turned on the sirens and started racing to the hospital.

Okay so I get the call 5 min before we showed up at my sil's, they fill up food for us, I am talking to family on the phone and poor Nic breaks down cuz we just got there. He knows when we go to families we spend the whole day and now were not, were leaving to go back home. It was horrible. Tony's family was really trying to help (they are wonderful, especially when it comes to the boys dx) but everyone was talking to him at once and I knew that wasn't going to go over well.

I finally got him situated and we left.

We went to the hospital and she was sedated but they took her off to see how she was at about 4 ish. They did a cat scan but can't tell if she had a stroke. Last when I called at 9 ish, they said she was coming out of it, but wouldn't open her eyes. She would only nod to questions asked. They asked if she was in pain and she said yes.

They can't do an MRI because she has a pacemaker and so at this point we don't know whats going on.

Anyway, just wanted to tell you guys. Today sucks and it especially affects me because my father died over 20 yrs ago from a massive stroke and it scares the crap outta me!

Thanks for listening.

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In reply to: tebald
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 7:34am

((((Lainie))) I am so sorry this is happening to you and your mom and on Mother's Day. Please know that my thoughts are with your family and I am sending out some loud Prayers.

It's great that your sister acted so fast and called an ambulance. Quick treatment is key for stroke pt's. Hopefully the hospital was able to start her on TPA or another stroke med. Those meds are time dependent...so sometimes they can't give them if it's been too long since the onset of stroke symptoms.

Please keep us posted....and I will continue to pray for your Mom.

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Mon, 05-10-2010 - 7:56am

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I'm so sorry, this must be a really stressful and worrying time for you. I hope your mum gets better, and I know how hard it is to be patient with disruptions to routine when you are worried. Sending you lots of and recovery vibes for your mother.


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Registered: 02-28-2008
In reply to: tebald
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 10:28am

{{HUGS}}

Oh, Lainie. How scary this must be for you. I hope that everything turns out to be fine and that it's just a little TIA or something. I'm sorry that it ruined all your plans and all, but at least they got your mother to the hospital fairly quickly. Keep us posted.

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In reply to: tebald
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 12:04pm

Lainie, hugs to you and your family.

Molly
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In reply to: tebald
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 4:25pm

Oh yikes! How scary and stressful that must be! I'll keep you and your mother in my thoughts.

Hugs,

Evelyn

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Registered: 11-28-2006
In reply to: tebald
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 10:07pm

Ahhhh thank you everyone! Okay she is still in a coma like state (but not in an official coma) they said no to stroke because she can move both sides of her body. She just isn't coherent at this point. Maybe due to the meds they gave her last night and waiting to see if she comes out of it. At this point they have no idea what has happened.

Thanks everyone.

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In reply to: tebald
Tue, 05-11-2010 - 8:18am

(((((((Lainie)))))))

That is so scary. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

xoxoxo

Sara

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In reply to: tebald
Tue, 05-11-2010 - 10:59am
(((HUGS))) Lainie, I hope that your mom is doing okay this morning.

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Wed, 05-12-2010 - 11:00am
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Wed, 05-12-2010 - 11:54am

Thank you so much guys. Especially since this is really an Off Topic thread. It's so nice to know I have so many friends even if you are far away.

Yesterday when I went to see her the nurses said she was going downhill. She wasn't responding to them or following what they said or their questions. She also wasn't squeezing their hands.

BUT when I went in to see her she turned her head when she heard my voice and squeezed my hand. And when my sister and daughter showed up she really perked up more. It was really nice to see that since I had such a bad report from the nurses.

She is still pretty much out of it and although she trys to talk, she can't. She is in an out of conscience (sp?) and never quite there when she's alert.

The Docs now believe that what we are seeing are symptons of some brain damage when she fell and hit her head. She is bruised on the side of her face where she landed and it looks like the drugs leaving her body has nothing to do with it.

They said she could be like this for the next 3-5 days and at this point we just have to wait it out to see what kind of long term damage has happened.

The only thing that bugs me though, is apparently I found out that the reason they turned on the sirens when she was in the ambulance was because my mother stopped breathing and they Vented her (tube down the throat). I asked if a concussion could cause that? I don't know, maybe I need to do some research to understand that part better.

I hate this. I get to the hospital at 10 and don't leave until 4 or 5 and I have to get ready for 2 upcoming IEP meetings and then get Nicholas to do his school work and etc etc etc.

But I think the hardest thing for me to deal with (besides my mothers condition of course) is seeing how unemotional my kids are during this time. It hasn't even fazed Chris at all, and Nicholas, although his anxiety about all of this is up, basically only asks black and white questions such as "Is gramma still alive" versus how is she doing? When can I see her? Is she in pain? I get none of that, only Is she still alive.

UGH I hate Autism sometimes.

Smooches to you all! Thanks for being here for me.

Lainie

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