My 4 yr old just tested up to age 18

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My 4 yr old just tested up to age 18
Tue, 02-01-2011 - 5:40pm

I am astounded. Floored. Everyone thinks their child is smart. I thought he was super smart. I guess I had no idea how smart. The school district was doing their testing for IEP eligibility for kindergarten next year. The psychologist told me one portion he completed up to the 13 year old range. Another up to 18 year old range.

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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 10:49am

I'm going through the same thing right now.

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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 12:23pm
Does your son have a diagnosis?

Well, we have that kind of thing here with being ahead and struggling. We have found that although our boy is way beyond where he's supposed to be in many ways, in other ways he needs to work hard, like writing, social things, etc. While he can read at a post secondary level, he writes at grade level, and his writing is not very neat. When he was in Kindergarten, he would go to grade 2 for reading. He was way beyond 2nd grade reading, but reading and writing often go together, and the writing part was a huge struggle at that age. Now in 4th grade, he is able to do online 8th grade math from class independently and pick any level of book to read and test on, but he is either at level or struggles in other areas. While it usually takes him a few minutes to do his homework, last week it took several hours, because it was a book review- how he felt about it, and other open ended things. His class right now is huge on sitting still and doing reading and math, which is where he does very well, but when he was in kindergarten, and first grade, there was so much other stuff, it stresses me out just thinking about it- cutting, writing, sitting still, kids running around, etc. He didn't do well. Social is something ours is working on right now. He'll have an IEP for that next month.

What it means to me, at least for my son, is that certain things are easy for my son, things that have one way of doing them, like reading and math. You learn how to do it and that's it. You remember. But social? It's so open ended and ever changing that it's extremely hard to know what to do.
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Wed, 02-02-2011 - 4:06pm
Sorry i didn't clarify about my son. We think he has Aspergers. Also Sensory, and probable tourettes to come. His Asperger testing has come up "highly probable" yet nobody has said a "for sure" thing for us. I see what you are getting at. Is your son in a regular public school? I just don't even know what kind of school will be best. I see that we will have similar issues. The psychologist mentioned that he will have social problems due to the manner he speaks and carries himself being more mature than the other kids. He has problems writing and with muscle tone and coordination. Motor skills. Doing basic things for himself. It makes sense, the things that can be done one way. I appreciate the insight. It really freaked me a bit to hear those results!
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Thu, 02-03-2011 - 1:01am
Yes, in fact my 11 year old just took the ACT on the 22nd. Next year, in 6th grade, he'll be taking the SATs. He's been reading manuals since he was 3. Its crazy. The biggest issue is to challenge him while remembering that he's still a kid. I opted not to advance him at school because while he is brilliant academically, his social abilities were still behind. He had enough pressure without having to be forced to deal with older kids and their issues before he was ready. I'm convinced that I've made the right decision. Especially after seeing other AS kids who have suffered terrible anxiety because of skipping a grade. School is not just academics. Its much more.
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Wed, 02-09-2011 - 9:50pm

I have a similar story to the others who have replied.

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Fri, 02-11-2011 - 8:51am

Yes I've been there. You are in for a really rocky ride, let me warn you. As soon as my son starting scoring off the charts on certain aspects (literacy, particularly, he was doing undergraduate programmes when he was 7) it made life incredibly hard: no-one could get their head around the fact that he could be 'gifted and talented' AND have 'additional support needs'. It's a fairly typical spread for Aspies, actually. It is why you cannot just use IQ scores - which are usually an average over 4 domans - to represent where they are. Typically they'll score off the charts in some areas - particularly if is related to a special interest! - and below the norm on others.

I'd be careful of any pyschologist who tells you your son will run into problems because they are 'too mature': that shows a bit of a misunderstanding of how Aspergers and ASD works. just because they have very advanced skills and abilities in certain areas does not make them mature, at all. It makes them sound like little professors, which is not the same thing at all. BUT many Aspies do quite well at being placed in classes with older peers, mostly because the way they socialise is much more like adults socialise (I mean, when was the last time you hung out with a bunch of people because you were the same age?? no, you hang out with people who share your interests, or hobbies, or skills, etc. Aspies are like that: they have nothing in common with their classmates unless that classmate happens to be interested in, or good at, something they are interested in or good at. A lot f the social issues they face in school can be solved by realising this!)

Good luck. the key fight for you will be making sure your son gets the support he needs to thrive academically, socially and emotionally, because he'll need all those skills to do well in life.

Kirsty, mum to Euan (12, Aspergers) Rohan (8, NT) and Maeve (5,NT)

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