My Day , My Night. I don't understand..
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| Sun, 07-01-2007 - 4:36am |
Today Chris had a problem with his friends....
He was over at his friends house (twins who he is very close to) and another friend came over and announced in front of him and his friends that his parents said "Okay" on them sleeping over. Another friend from the neighborhood was going to sleep over too and this made chris feel bad. He was the one that wasn't sleeping over.
He came home and announced that we had to move, and move now.
He in fact insisted. Over and over to me. I tried to explain what it took to move, but he just wanted to pack up and move immediatly. I said we can't just move like that...
He couldn't understand that we couldn't do this immediatly. He was stressed.... big time.
I tried to explain that sometimes things like this happen (I gave examples of how the times he has had friends spend the night but not everyone from the neighborhood can be invited ect... and sometimes only 1 friend can come sleep over ...(Its hard as he is so close to the twins, he sees multiples with them and often they both sleep over because their twins and he's friends with both)
So tonite I was surprised to see some agression from him (he has been on risperdal for about two months and it has been such a blessing for his rages) but I saw more agression with him, and more OCD as he had to have pancakes at a certain time, like he used to do. (He has a thing about food)
Then he had to put on his skates and ride around in the house (no prob with me) and had to go outside with his skates everytime I smoked outside. No biggie to me again.
Then he insisted on going up and down the stairs with the skates (and I totally freak out with this... I get real scared when he does this, cuz were talking about stairs and skates.) I have fallen down a few times on my stairs, (I hate them lol)
He finally falls on our bed (long ways, at the end like he always does) and so I pull off his skates and he decides he's going to his room. It was very late.
He knocks on our door while were watching SNL and insists for his skates. I can tell he's very sleepy cuz of the melantonin I gave him when I gave him his meds...., and I can tell he wants to go up and down the stairs. I say no and he jumps on hubby's excercise machine that's in the game room outside our room....
Okay then he starts talking about how fat he's getting with the Risperadal.... And I said Chris don't worry as when we go to your pys on monday, if your gaining too much weight we can change that.... he states that he doesn't want to do anymore pills at all...
Sigh....
So then I get him back to his room and he insists to me that I need to put his socks on and get his skates back on his feet. I do that as he promises me he won't leave his room with the skates on his feet since he was so sleepy.
I did it, and a few min later he was fast asleep in his bed.
He is asleep with his skates on...
Sigh, what a night....

(((((Oh Lainie)))))
I'm so sorry...this one breaks my heart and I have nothing to offer other than a cyberhug, and after a night like that, it's not much.
Hang in there and keep doing what you're doing...loving your boy.
Amy
Poor Chris!
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Well my post last night was basically I'm feeling stressed and I gotta type about it kinda thing. But I was wondering if the skates was a sensory thing too Paula, and because he was stressed about his friends and the sleeping over, he was in overload mode.
It was just one of those hard times when "It HAS to be done, and it HAS to be done now" kinda thing with him.... That if he didn't have his skates back on I would of been up all night with him about it kinda thing.
BTW it's noon and he still has them on lol.
Thanks for listening guys :)
It's definetly a sensory thing.
Well he kept them on for most of the day. He finally took them off to go swimming lol. There rollar skates. The inlines he has too much of a difficult time skating in those, a balance thing probably, so he won't touch them.
Well now its good to know why, and why he wouldn't stop. I never thought last night sensory.... It makes sense now.
(((Lainie!!!)))
Oh hon, why didn't you tell me about this on the phone? HUGS to you and Chris. Bless his heart, that had to be hard for him to handle. That's one of those situations where all you can really do is hug 'em and let 'em know that everything is ok and that YOU are their biggest fan! Thank goodness ds isn't old enough to really have kids over for a sleep over yet. At least he hasn't ever mentioned it. BUT....he HAS been left out of things and passed over before (I'm sure you remember me tellin' ya about the ice skating incident). Next time Chris wants to move, tell him he can come visit me:)! One afternoon with my ds and he would be ready for home! Then again, they might turn out to be pretty good friends...great minds think alike! Even minds with ASD!:) Feel free to call anytime you get stressed Lainie...I KNOW how that feels to just have an all around strange and stressful day! HUGS,HUGS,HUGS!!!!!
Jen
{{{Jen}}}
Thank you so much sweetie for your support :). You know when we talked, I just didn't want to think about it yet. It had been mulling in my mind, and bothering me, that I just didn't want to think how much it bothered me. But eventually it ate away at me lol. Also I don't think he got into the skate thing yet as he was still up when we talked. The skate thing kinda took me over the edge.
Another thing also about the social issue's is I remember Marisa (20 yr old dd) had the same problems, and so since she wasn't dx-d with anything on the spectrum, then it's probably a NT situation, and all kids go thru that one. She did have big time social issue's tho, to where she did play therapy for many years.
Sometimes you will find, that just getting stressed thinking about things over and over again, you just gotta type it out, and in a environment that you know will understand.
At that time I kinda pushed it outta my mind, but it crept back in to where I couldn't stand it anymore. I just want to understand, cuz I don't!
I don't understand most things, and I get confused, and frustrated and overwhelmed.
This is a long road we are on, learning, reading, understanding, but since we are both newbies, we can do it.
My big thing in life is "Understanding" why my kids do what they do, cuz if I can understand then I can help them more.
I sure didn't understand last night.... and eventually needed to let it all out here, cuz it built up....
Lainie