My dd was diagnosed, I was crushed
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|Wed, 05-07-2003 - 11:34am|
I also have a 9 year old diagnosed as ADHD. Although she clearly does have huge attention issues, I strongly feel she is Aspergers as well. Her lack of understanding people's emotions and the way she understands language only literally was so odd. She is more higher functioning than my 5 year old and blends in fairly well with her peers. She stands out as a troublemaker though. This year she is having a banner year. I took her to the school district before she was in kindergarten, before I knew about all these things like ADHD or AS. They turned her away saying she was one point away from qualifying for help. She was on the borderline, barely and didn't even take my concerns about behavior into consideration. I didn't know enough to push it. And let me tell you she floundered in kindergarten up until 3rd grade. She hates school because of this. Now I clearly see how difficult it all really must have been for her.
My question is that my dd is having a great year. She still isn't like the other kids and simply cannot accept responsibility for anything, but she is even sincerely trying on that. She will always be an odd duck. My in-laws are pushing me to get her help because I told them I suspect she is AS. What do you think would happen if I go to the school district or the pediatrician and tell them although my daughter is performing fine in school and she's really doing well at home, could you please diagnose her and get her some help? I think to them it would be like, my toy isn't broken, could you please fix it. My father in law was angry at me for saying that and said "IT wouldn't hurt to ASK, bleep bleep." They barely took in my 5 year old for referral on my insurance despite her lack of speech and seizure disorder. It's not that I don't want to help my older dd, but how do I ask for help when she is doing alright at this time? I just know that I've done this before with her and they didn't want to help her. I don't know where to go. She seems so high functioning, but I know she's not right. She's doing well this year, but I think that is largely due to her teacher not giving much homework and being very lenient.
I appreciate any thoughts you have for me.