My lil guy is still having a rough time

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My lil guy is still having a rough time
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 9:48am
Tony is still having such a hard time with getting on the bus and going to school.
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 10:01am

Ah Ginny, know this too shall pass, (although at the time you want to behead anyone who makes such trite sayings;)

Cian has been taking the bus since October and he's 4; only last week I had to carry him on the bus kicking and screaming. For the most part he's ok, but every now and again we regress. I think for Cian the fact that the bus doesn't arrive until 10:30 ish is hard as he's been up and about and doing his own thing for a few hours and the intrusion of the bus and school is not welcome at all. What time does Tony get the bus?

Dee

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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:23am

Thanks!

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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 12:33pm

Ginny,

Try and break it down into components and address each component:
Is is school, is it the bus, or is it both?

If it is the bus, you may want to come up with some kind of sticker or token reward system scheme with the driver or the teacher where Tony is rewarded for getting on the bus nicely (you may have to break it down more than that: getting on, riding quietly, getting off). So many tokens will gain him a prize.

The trick is to get the teacher or driver involved, because if you are trying to do it by yourself, too much time has elapsed by the time he gets home to claim his token.

They probably have a rewards system at school (I hope!), and I am not sure how he is on the bus home. He is probably fine by then, I would imagine -and so I am thinking that he CAN ride the bus, he just needs the conditions adjusted a bit, right?

And BTW, Peter is notoriously slow to start in the morning. I have found that getting him to bed early or on time, getting him *up* a little early, and allowing him some extra 'chill-time" in the morning has helped us ALL immensely! I see it as his version of morning coffee.

I HTH

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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 2:40pm

I agree about figuring out whether it's the bus, school or both. When my NT ds took the bus for speech therapy, he HATED it. We finally realized it's cus he had a really long bus ride (plus once the bus got to school, the kids had to sit on the bus and wait another 15-20min until time for the teachers to come out to the bus to get the kids; all told, it was about an hour on the bus), plus ds had a really witchy bus driver.

I started driving ds to school in the a.m., and he'd ride the bus home in the afternoon. I also safety-pinned a couple of fidget toys to his jacket that he could play with on the way home. After that school was much more tolerable.

There may not be anything you can do about your ds transitions, but if you can figure out what's making him most upset, you may be able to provide some things to minimize the trauma.

Best wishes.

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Registered: 01-13-2008
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 3:11pm

my heart breaks for u two! again, u should give yourself a pat ont he back because u are a super strong mommy!!! im not certain im as strong as u!!


just like diets they say it takes what 6 weeks to make it routine, maybe thats the way u should look at this. ;)



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Registered: 02-28-2008
Mon, 03-03-2008 - 3:24pm

My 6 year old rides a bus everyday to school. Earlier this year we were having problems getting him on the bus to and from school. Partly the problem was that it's a long ride and partly is that he's finding school demanding. We used a sticker chart for getting on and off the bus and it helped some. The other trick was to 'race' him to the bus.

Anyway, I feel for you. Watching your little one bawling as they ride away is heartbreaking.

Drea

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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 5:09pm

Well I can certainly understand.

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Registered: 03-17-2005
Fri, 03-07-2008 - 9:36am

Ginny, I'm sorry Tony is still having a rough time.

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Fri, 03-07-2008 - 12:57pm

Isn't it strange how rules vary from state to state and even county to county?

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