Is my son very shy or mildly autistic?
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|Thu, 06-24-2004 - 7:31pm|
I have a 6-year old son who just finished kindergarten and has had some developmental delays in the past. He didn't start talking until 3 and was diagnosed with apraxia, his speech now is almost age appropriate except for a few sounds, "th" and "sh", but he also has a moderate hearing impairment which may contribute to it, we just got hearing aids this year. He receives speech therapy at school. He still does not have strong fine motor skills and am having him evaluated this summer to see if he qualifies for services.
He also has complex tics which come and go. The main thing I am wondering about are his social skills and why they are the way they are.
He can play appropriately with children his age and has a couple neighborhood friends, but is very controlling and has a hard time playing with someone who is also controlling. He can act appropriately but in a lot of social situations at school, but acts inappropriately, defiant and annoying sometimes at home and shy (the shyness is still present at school).
For instance, when we go to the doctor, I tell him before we go in to be quiet while I talk or he will be in trouble when we get home. But before long, he he is annoying his 4 and 2 year old brothers to cause a disturbance or running out of the room.
At his brother's birthday party he was screaming and yelling while I was talking to someone else. Or if we're at the park and I'm talking to another mother, he'll constantly ask to be pushed on the swing or something to interrupt my conversation (all the while his 2 and 4 year old brother are playing by themselves)
I think in these situations he knows that I will be upset so he purposely misbehaves to get attention.
Also, he has a hard time saying "Hello" to someone he knows at least when I am with him, for instance, when someone from his class will say "Hello" when we're out he will ignore them or make a scouling face.
He also has a hard time asking for something. At the pool if someone has one of our pool toys and he notices. He can't ask them for it back, he wants me to do it. He just started going to the neighbors house to play by himself. Otherwise he would only play if they came to our house. So he is improving somewhat.
He usually sits alone on the bus, unless someone sits next to him, I don't think he would take action and sit with someone.
The thing that concerns my the most is just being able to say hello.
Mother-in-law thinks he has a mild form of autism, at first I thought no because he loves to play with kids (does not get along with all, but can play well with a few) and has a loving relationship with me and his dad. But I wouldn't say he is like a typical 6-year old.
Any ideas or advice.