Need to leap outtta the box

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Registered: 04-28-2007
Need to leap outtta the box
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Sun, 08-19-2007 - 6:18pm

Here I am 32, (where the f' did that happen?), with three kids (love them all), but I still feel like I'm an angry 17 year old! I fight for my kids, get them what they need (am blessed with a fabulous dh who understands to the best of his ability), but I still feel like I'm crawling beneath my skin. I will never be the suburban soccer Mom (thank f'n God btw) but I feel soooo outside the box because of that. Today was fine, just slow and laid beck, hence the ramblings I suppose. I have this hankering to go get my nose re-pierced (removed it when I had to work in an Episcopal school), and to reshave my hair and look at the meaning of my next tattoo (yes I have two others). I dunno, I just don't want to be lost in the excrement of my family's needs, kwim? I want both.....to be Mom galore as well as ME!!!!!!

Right over it now,....still may get the nose pierced again....what do you think shave the head again??? hmmmmm

Dee




Edited 8/19/2007 6:40 pm ET by roanmom

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Registered: 11-28-2006
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 12:12am
You guys are so cool! I really wish we all were neighbors. Wouldn't that be a kick???!!!
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:04am

Dee,
Do you know about this group?

http://www.georgiafaces.info/

- Anandhi

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Registered: 08-10-2007
Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:46am
I so wish I could be like all of you. My whole life I have been cautious and boring. I just turned 35, lost 50 pounds and I still dress like an old person. For once in my life I would like to look in the mirror and say to myself "you're one hot mama!" Of course after breastfeeding for the last 20 months, I would just like my breast to look somewhat non-national geographic in nature, so I can't show the girls off-er make that sagging, deflated mounds of flesh. Oh well I will live vicariously through all of you. LEAP FOR ALL OF US!!!
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 10:15am

Wow, I was just having a "one of those existential moments" self indulgent vent. I never knew so many of us felt this way; and why don't y'all live near me....sigh! As to the hair, still waffling, but the piercing will definitely happen, just need to find the time, minus kids. The tattoo is coming too, but as it took me two years to find the right design for my last one, I'm not about to rush into the next one either.

You all ROCK!!!!

Dee

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 11:39am

I admit i tend to lurk more than type. The constant getting dropped with chat annoys the piss out of me. But I do enjoy this group. But I follow my typical pattern of well going in cycles.But i go through the same thing every body else is going through.

I admit shaving my head isn't exactly my thing. I this summer have been trying to do the whole pedicure thingy every other week. I have been trying to diet myself to a lower weight, but have been missing the gym because of whackyt schedules.

ON the other hand i have been trying like the dickens to find a great getaway place for me like a spa to just get away for a couple of days but sad to say the money and time isn't there. So i keep neglecting myself. I got forced to buy a new refrigdotator because of a lemon of a 5 year old frigde.

And believe it or not I have been seriously thinking about a tattoo for myself..

I have to wonder..

Rina

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 12:34pm

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:19pm

Hey Dee>>>

It's not you. I'm now 33, divorced, living with my partner of 3 years wtih my 2 boys and his dd!!! Her mother is that one who judges. I've got a pierced tongue (and have for most of the past 12 years), and a belly button ring, and another personal piercing as well. I've either gotten soem of these done after kids or redone after kids (I had my tongue done 2 additional times since I had children and my belly button 2 since I had kids due to surgeries). I have many tattoos. I'm dying to go on Kat Von D's LA Ink show!!! I want a whole back display. I have a "tramp stamp", although I got this long before it was popular (8 years or so ago) and then added to it, i had a ying yang, then I got a tribal butterfly motif around it with my younger son's name. My older son's name is in a tribal between my shoulders. I will have amy brown fairy's covering my back before I turn 35!!! I work at a law firm and they accept me willingly (thankfully).

But your comments reminded me of something. When my son was 3 he had the preschool teacher from H#$L. She kept telling me his only problem was me (even though he'd been in early intervention for almost 2 years at that point with speech and ot, but whatever). And she said and I quote "how can anyone take you seriously? you're a baby with a metal object banging around in your mouth and you know nothing of how to be a parent!". The hell she said. I reported her to the principal. I told her I didn't care if Every inch of my body was decorated with evil pictures and i pierced every avaiable part of my body, that what I chose to do to MY body had nothing to do with my son and his disability or lack thereof. She had to write me a letter of apology that consisted of the statement, I'm sorry if you didn't like what I had to say, but it is the truth!!! It took me a few years, but I made sure every parent of child with needs knew what a witch this woman was and she eventually took "early reitrement!" ha ha!

Anyhow, get your piercing, shavve your head and find the tat you always wanted. We deserve it!!! and it also teaches our own challenged children something - acceptance of that which you find different. One of my son's hates my piercings and tattoos... the other tells me I rock all the time! my sd says that her mom says only bad people do that to themselves (I guess in her mind that's worse than her continued infedelity until her marriage split up; But I digress...)

Do it, live, love it and have it all!!!!

Nicole

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