Need some help

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Registered: 12-23-2005
Need some help
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Tue, 08-07-2012 - 12:29pm

I am not sure I am in the right place but I thought maybe I could get some advise here from u ladies!  I have a 4 year old son that has been as what I call very trying since the day he was born love him to death but I have gotten to a point I don't even notice how difficult he is until people point it out and then I think yeah he is trying as I would call it. A few examples are he likes things in a certain way I always say I think he is a little ocd always wants a blanket to lay on no matter where he is laying bed,couch or floor doesn't matter but I will have to say that is getting better he lately has let me use different blankets or a different pillow and that is a big step for him. He does not like being without me or his dad to get him to even stay with my sister's for a few hours is very difficult. I have five children all together and none of my other child have ever acted in this manner and I know all kids a different but everything seems to be a horrible for him all the time little things like his shoe untied he will cry until it gets tied it is like he can't function until it is fixed and tied and not only tied but tied the right way. Sorry this is so long I guess I am just kinda lost and not sure if this is his personality or something else. I tried to put him in school and it lasted for about a week with me going everyday with him and not leaving. He did enjoy it when he wasn't sitting right by me worried that I might leave him the weird thing is I never leave him because he has a emotion break down if I even think about it. He has always hated if anyone but us even touches him even the teacher leaning over him looking at his paper was a problem.  Any advise or help would be great ! Thanks Mandy

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Thu, 08-09-2012 - 12:25am
Seconding everything that mom_ladybug said. And I would like to add in, get his eyes checked by a developmental optometrist. They will check for visual processing issues as well as good eye sight.

My son had some issues, slight lazy eye and the brain processing things incorrectly. Vision therapy helped a lot, and helped with his sensory issues. Your son's sensory issues are not the same as my son's, but each kid adapts differently. I know one kid with the same issue as my son but instead of active and outgoing was more clingy and wanting only to be with mom and dad. It can't hurt to rule this out, as it is something that is often overlooked. The kids can't tell us they are seeing things differently because it is normal to them.