Need some help please

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Registered: 11-12-2006
Need some help please
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Wed, 01-09-2008 - 9:12pm

I was just wandering if any of you have this problem. My son Nathan is 7 yrs old and he has not yet have the diagnostic but we are getting it. Anyway he is having a hard time with school and starting is day. You see I work at the school as a Cross Walk person and than in the lunch room. Anyway when we go to school he is fine but when he gets there he cries and he will leave the building and run after me. Also he is having a hard time in the class room. We are thinking about homeschooling him. So if any of you have any ideas please let me know.

Thanks,
Mindy

P.S. They don't know that he has left the building.

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Registered: 01-25-2007
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 4:23am
Wow. It's not good that they don't know he's left the building. He should be supervised better. It is difficult when they know Mom is right outside. It's always easier when you are stressed to want to return to your comfort zone and sometimes we do have to force them to be more independent. I really don't know if this is one of those cases. What grade is he in? Can the school try to come up with ways to make the morning transition easier?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 7:05am

I went through that type of thing with Haley when she was that age. I would drop her off at school but she wouldn't get out of the car unless I walked her inside. Then she wouldn't let go of me unless I walked her to the classroom. I went along with that because it "made her feel better". But then it became a major issue because when we got to the classroom, she would grab onto me with this bear hug and would not let go for anything. She would start crying and carrying on. What we did was have the teacher distract her by showing her something in the room and I would sneak off. It was rough at first and I had to walk out with tears in my own eyes but it got better.

I agree that there is something very wrong if they don't even know he's left the building. I would be on the phone with the superintendent over that one.

I hope things get easier. I know how stressful it must be for him and I can imagine the stress you are feeling as well.




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Registered: 12-29-2007
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 10:20am

Hi. I don't know if this will help, if it's an option or if you would even consider it. Does your school district offer transportation (when he gets his dx, he should qualify for a special needs bus with both a driver and an aide to help the kids)? My 4yo ds has taken the bus to preschool since his 1st day- it tore me up inside to send him, but I knew that he would have to ride it next year to kindergarten and I thought it would be easier in the end to just get him accustomed to doing it. Turned out he enjoys it, and we say our goodbyes at the end of the driveway. I think this would help in your situation since you are right at school, and maybe if he says goodbye to you at home, even if you follow him to school (staying out of sight) then you maybe could at least stop him from following you out (have you complained about that to the school? It is so dangerous and the fact they don't even notice kind of makes me wonder about the security there). Also, the teacher should have a better handle on the students if she knows you aren't there as a backup to bring him back when he strays out of the room (one would HOPE). Just an idea- Best of luck to you!


Jennifer

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Registered: 06-25-2003
Thu, 01-10-2008 - 11:53am

Hi Mindy,


I thin Jennifer's idea about the school bus is a very sound one. Our DS was always fine taking the bus and always a mess when Mom or Dad dropped him off for any reason. I have no idea why.

-Paula

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