Need some perspective

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Registered: 05-06-2009
Need some perspective
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Sun, 05-09-2010 - 1:38pm

Just driving myself nuts and need some perspective from all the nice folks here!


I've posted a couple of times in the past.

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Registered: 01-25-2007
Mon, 05-10-2010 - 4:42am
Are the boys "affectionate" with each other? Sometimes twins rely more on each other than their parents. My kids were never the sit on your lap and read kind of kids. We read to them every night, but they were often toddling around listening to the story or playing in bed with their stuffed animals at that age. They were a coulple of years older before we got to the "snuggle in the big chair" phase. 25 months is really young to start drawing any conclusions. This doesn't sound like unusual two year old behavior. One thing to point out is PDD or not each kid has their own personalities to add to the mix. Some kids are really clingy and others are not. Neither my NT or my AS was the clingy type. Just relax enjoy your little boys and see how things develop.
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Registered: 09-22-2004
Wed, 05-12-2010 - 4:50pm

This sounds a lot like my pdd daughter. She has just turned 5 and it is pretty recent that she gives affection without me asking, probably within the past year or so. Also, I still can't engage her in anything if she has something that she is more interested in. Now my NT daughter is almost 3 and she will just run up to me and hug my legs. She will sit and snuggle. This is her though, she was like this from when she was a baby, my older one hated to be held as a baby, so it could just be a personality thing. With activity engagement with my little nt one, if she doesn't want to do it, she won't. That is really just part of being a 2 year old.

I totally understand the lack of affection getting you down. I felt horrible that my daughter wouldn't just hug me the way that other kids would hug and cuddle with their parents. However, now that it does happen, it is a million times more special. She still doesn't show affection the way a nt kid does, but it is what she can give and it is so special!

HTH,

Kerri

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Registered: 05-06-2009
Thu, 05-13-2010 - 3:43pm
Thanks both of you for the replies.