New and need answers please:)

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New and need answers please:)
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Wed, 11-24-2010 - 12:49am

Hi everyone!

So who has the magic wand and can give me all the answers I need....RIGHT NOW!? I wish things were that easy sometimes:) Well I have lurked a few times and reading your stories and seeing how amazing you all seem I felt that I can post without anyone passing judgement.

I have 19 month old twin girls. Both were on time crawlers...late walkers and now one is considered "normal" with her speech...the other is not. This is the one I am worried about.

She has met all of her milestones up until now. She only says about 6 or 7 words unlike her sister who is at about 20 or so. Ok...so not a

 

Leah 31, DH 39

IVF #1 March 08-BFN....the little bean

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Thu, 11-25-2010 - 11:14am

I didn't think you were bossy...actually I thought that was a really good answer!

Jessie Mommy to Gabe (5.8 yrs old ASD, CAS, SPD) and Zane (1.10 yrs old ESD)

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Registered: 09-27-2007
Thu, 11-25-2010 - 7:49am

You and Leah are sisters?

Jessie Mommy to Gabe (5.8 yrs old ASD, CAS, SPD) and Zane (1.10 yrs old ESD)

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Wed, 11-24-2010 - 10:54am

Hello Leah and welcome to the board.

Jessie Mommy to Gabe (5.8 yrs old ASD, CAS, SPD) and Zane (1.10 yrs old ESD)

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Wed, 11-24-2010 - 6:28am

I don't reallty have any insight for you that you don't already know...in my experience of my own kids and working with preschoolers and other people's kids, I have come across those kinds of behaviours a lot in NT kids. My own middle DS used to spin things, obsessively for hours, and line up his pens in colours and go ballistic if one was out of place. He could recite entire episodes of Ben 10 from memory. But he is completely NT and now also does not do any of these things. My autistic child never really did anything obsessive, or hoardy, or had any particular 'special interest' or obsession. He was an early talker and very social. I've seen NT kids hoard, and obsess, and be unable to engage in imaginary play, and be speech delayed, and so on, and not end up with any ASD markers at all. It's one of the reason that some forms of autism, particularly Asperger's Syndrome, are really hard to detect in younger children.

However, you don't need a diagnosis of anything in particular to benefit from EI. If your paediatrician or other therapists think your child could benefit from additional services or support, they probably can. I haven't seen any evidence that it does harm: the only real harm is a misdiagnosis and the wrong kind of intervention (eg medicating someone who doesn't need it), but that isn't what we are talking about here. I think the only shadow of a concern is that your child gets 'labelled' with a diagnosis they don't warrant. I've written here before about how dismissive I am of labelling theory so I won't go into that in detail again. the premise is that people will respond to the label, and stigamise your child, and I think that is just nonsense, frankly. because removing or avoiding a label doesn't remove or avoid the problem, it just stops your child getting the support they need.

hth

Kirsty, mum to Euan (12, Aspergers Syndrome) Rohan (7, NT) and Maeve (5, TODAY!!, NT)

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Wed, 11-24-2010 - 3:48am

I really don't think early intervention will hurt anything if you go that route. As you said this could simply be her own little quirk or the result of having to deal with a dominant twin. You can just take a wait and see approach If that makes you more comfortable. It sounds like she's a happy little kid! A recommendation for early intervention doesn't mean she will eventually be dx'd with "something" down the road. Some kids really benefit from speech intervention early on and then never need any other therapy after that. Does the dominant twin tend to make decisions for both of them? I remember reading about one set of twins where the quiet one "had" the words but never used them because the other one asked for everything they wanted. I guess I