New to board 17 year old w/aspergers

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Registered: 03-27-2003
New to board 17 year old w/aspergers
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Sat, 01-15-2011 - 5:36pm

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Registered: 02-02-2009
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 7:03pm

Hi,

it looks as if part of your reply was cut off, or maybe you were interrupted prior to sending...?

If that is the case, I hope you will come back and complete the rest of your post.

I have a 9yo son and we are having quite a time.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 7:50pm

yes sorry I was

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Registered: 02-28-2008
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 8:24pm

My 12 year old does the same 'blame game' thing with us - "you didn't remind me enough!"

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson
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Registered: 01-25-2007
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 7:29am

I think many folks who went the "talk therapy" route didn't find much success. I know it drove me crazy because I would ask the therapist to work on specific issues with my aspie and she would just have pillow fights with him and charge me $150 bucks for a 50 minute session. My ds loved going to appointments but it really didn't make much of a difference with his Asperger's, so I wouldn't beat yourself up about discontinuing therapy earlier. Basically the past is the past and what you and your son need to focus on is the future. What kinds of services are available through school? Do they have any kind of career or lifeskills programs? Maybe an aptitude test could help him focus on where his talents are. I expected my then 10 yr old son to come out strong on computers or science which he did, but he also showed strength in some business areas that I hadn't realized he possessed. The teeth brushing thing again Is common with these kids. If I wasn't all over my son, daily hygiene would be totally optional. It really sounds like the school needs to step up and provide some stronger supports for transitioning him into the real world. It is normal for him to want to stay in his comfort zone so a little pushing may be necessary. The main message I want to send you is that you shouldn't feel that if you had done this or that differently everything would be better. The truth is life is messy sometimes and we all need to learn to adapt to circumstances beyond our control. Good luck.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 11:26am

I know your right about the past and thank you for saying that but its very hard to do! So moving forward...How do I get the school to help. They always have given me a hard time saying hes able to do things on his own, they do

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Registered: 02-28-2008
Sun, 01-16-2011 - 1:45pm

The school is doing things that are against the law.

Andrea, mom to

Graham
Miles
Anson