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| Thu, 10-26-2006 - 9:29am |
Hi, I am a 46 year old woman with a 13 AS boy and a 9 year old girl with ADHD(?AS). My son hit puberty hard in January and suffered the loss of his beloved grandmother. Since then we have had a great deal of trouble with him in school, especially behavior-wise. He handed in no homework and ended up on academic probation(even though he got 100% on all of his in school tests). We spent the summer getting him a new developmental pediatrician, OT, summer school, social skills classes and a full medical work up. Things are a bit better but it takes a lot of monitoring on the school and our parts to keep in on an even keel. It is so frustrating!!! Has anyone 'hit the wall' after puberty?

Hello and welcome!
First off, I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your mother or MIL. That's a big, big loss and strain. I hope you guys and the surviving spouse (if any) are doing OK.
Wow. Puberty and the loss of a grandmother at the same time. Double whammy!
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LOL,
We have have ay least one other Long Islander here, some Floridians, and a few more Irish, of varying degrees from the boat.
You should fit right in!
-Paula
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Hi from Coram LI. I am Rina age 41 with 3 boys My parents followed the call of the old Jew after they retired and now live near West Palm Beach
I am so sorry for your loss.
Josh(asperger's) is only 11 and I don't see puberty coming thatt soon for us. But I can understand the moodiness and all. Josh did lose a grandparent at age 7. but I am not too sure he understood at the time. Now he will mention visiting the cemetary and all. I don't know how much he remembers of his grandfather but I am pretty sure with elephant brain over there he probably remembers more than he will admit too.
I also have worries about my MIL and although she is in remisson she had cancer. My biggest dread based on what we were told of her type of cancer is that she could get sick again and Josh will have his Bar Mitzvah in 2 years and she might not be there. The impact on that will be tough.
I hope as you learn to clear the wall you will be able to help me.
I guess my suggestion is to take everything one step at a time. Try to help him put words to the emotions he might be feeling.
Rina
What do you mean by hitting the wall? If you mean this wall when they are in puberty OH YEAH BABY!
I have 2 HFA/AS kiddos doing that right now. My dd is 12 and nearly through puberty and my son is 10 and just going into puberty. We have hit the wall with my dd in a big way but she is trying so hard. DS is on his way to hitting the same wall. It is very frustrating.
However, that said, I have heard that it is much better on the other side. We just have to get there!
On a side note, not to freak you out but just to suggest that you check into it, a good portion of kids with ASD can start to have seizure type activity during puberty. It can affect thier skills. It is written in a number of books and it has happened to my dd. It may be must puberty that hits our kids really hard, but it is also something that you may want to look into.
Renee