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|Tue, 09-30-2003 - 8:48am|
My name is Christine. I am a custodial stepmom to a 10 year old boy. We have had problems with him since preschool. But as he got older, problems got bigger and more noticable.
I have also suspected ADD, and the schools would say no..that he is just depressed cause of his mom living in another state, which I believe he is, but there is more to this. It has been 4 years since my son has lived here with us. He see's his mom twice a year, we live in MA and she lives in CA. He does live in a stable home and enviroment. He also has two other siblings here at home, 4 year old sister and a 2 year old brother.
When I started on the ADD boards, everyone keep bringing up this AS.
Let me tell you a little about him.
He is in 5th grade, very smart child. He is exceled in reading and the science. Wants to be an a scientist. His attention spam is very short, unless it is the computer. If he is watching TV, he is rolling all over the place, he will roll down the hallway to his bedroom, rather than walking, he will slide down the stairs on his butt rather than walking. He stares at walls and tables, he will walk around the house in circles. My child is weird. I hate to say it, but he is. He does thing so out of the norm that it is bothering. He will say things that make no sense, he will intrude in a adult conversation, if it is with peers, he has no intrest. He would rather play by himslef than with kids his own age. He has one friend and that is all. The kids try to be nice to him, but my son aslo acts as though he can not be bothered. We have to literally push him out the door on nice days just so he can go outside. He will sit in his room and read for hours, even sit in the dark and read, he always has a book on hand, even walking home from the bus stop, which means he is not socializing on the bus. I have watched him recess before, hiding of course and I find him always by himself reading or staring at the trees or walking around with his head down, or just doing these weird moves by himself, like he is in his own little world.
I call my child the faceless child. He hardly has a smile on his face, and when ever you talk to him he just stares at you.. We call it the deer in the headlights look. But he never heard what you said. He has a side to him that most see, IE school and they look at him as this sensitive very caring and compasonte child, and with a blink of an eye he is tripping his 4 year old sister, pushing her on the ground, Lying,,,lying straight thru his teeth. I don't beleive anything he says anymore...that is very hard for me. I have to search him before he leaves for school in the morning. He will load his pockets with coins, action figures, things like tape, or these paper things he cuts out. He is a very artistic child, loves to draw. We are seeing a new dr now, he is on paxil that his old dr put him on for depression, but I think there is more to this. Does any of this sound familier?
I forgot to also add, that my child has no motor skills what so ever. He can barley run, has no motivation for any kind of excerise what so ever. We tried Karate and he could not get it, we tried soccer but since he could not run, they put him goal where he ended up picking the net and a goal would be scored. He is very clumsy. He is a tall lanky child with no sense of direction either.
Saw the new Dr again tonight and he is actually the one who mention Aspergers to me..I was shocked. He suggested to have a neuro psych and projective testing done. Has anyone been thru this with their child?
The school has also sent me the report from the testing they did and here is some of what was said and the resluts.
The test is called WHISK for short ( Wechsler Intelligence Scale for Children) is the test. I am just going to sum of some of this and not sure what any of this means. Now you also have to understand that his 4th grade teacher and his school counslor told me I was wasting the schools time if I had a full core elevuation by the school. They keep telling me that he was just depressed and that was it.
In this report the Psychologist said that has a quick sense of humor. He said he is very open about his feelings, ( which he is not at home ). B told him he has a great deal of sensetivity towards others, and he worries a considerable amount whether family members will be okay ( his mother). He stated he had many intrestes, none of which are sport related. Said B has a good understanding of his learning style. He knows word retrieval is difficult, and he struggled with reading comprehension where there are time constraints. His head is very close to the page when he is writing. B often expected that new tasks would be diffcult and he put pressure on himself. He sets a high standard for himself.
With some visual material, he tried to be very systmatic which resulted in his sometimes needing extra time for task completion. Results appear to be an accurate estimate of his potential.
Ok on the ADHD scale, we see a whole different side of Brannont than the school reports, but did state that his teacher has only had him for two weeks so far. But the school has fought me every freaking year on this.
The score for his Wisc-III are this
Verbal(VIQ) is= 113
Performance ( PIQ) =102
B perfomed significantly better on verbal than nonverbal reasoning task. Such differences in performaces however are not especially unusual among children in general.
His verbal reasoning abilities are high average and above those of approx 81% of his peers. His nonverabl reasoning abilities are average and above those of approx 55% of students B's age.
B's abilities to sustain attention, concentrate and exert mental control are less well developed than his verbal reasoniong abilites. A realtive weakness in mental control for B may make the processing of complex information more time consuming for him, drain his mental energies more quickly as compared to other children his age, and perhaps result in more frequent errors on a varitiy of learning tasks.
Although clearly weaker than his verbal reasoning ablilites, B abiltiy to exert mental control is still within the average range and better than that of approx 45% of his age mates. He does become easily distracted by his own thoughts adn worries sometimes make it difficult to concerntrate. B also stated that he sometimes has "down days" for no apparent reason. He stated that he gets upset that one of his specialist teachers seems sad, and he feels badly that friend of his left school without ever saying goodbye. Brannon's speed of information processing ablilties are still within the avereage range and better than those of approx 39% of his age mates.
B's demostrated some word-retrieval diffuculties, which he finds to be very frustrating. He also did't feel comfortable with some social reasoning questions, He is very attuned to other's feelings. B does a great deal of worrying, which probably affects his foucus. He is a very caring sentstive boy. ADHD rating scales are incolcusive. B behavoir looks different in home and in school settings. Some of what looks like attentional issues might be related to some anxiety and other concerns.
I don't know what to make of any of this. The impression I am getting is that B is depressed and that there are not "real" problems here.
This is so hard for me to hear cause I see everyday, I see and hear the things he says. The school just passes him off as any other child and that is what bugs me the most. Can anyone help me in this...
Brannon scored a 86% on verbal comprehension
Freedome of Distracitibility he scored at 45%
Processing Speed he scored at 39%
Information he scored a 98%
Vocabulary he scored a 95%
Similarities he scored at 75%
Arithmetic he scored at 50%
Comprehension he scored at 25%
Digit Span he scored at 37%
Picture Completion he scored at 63%
Coding he scored at 16%
Picture Arrangement he scored at 50%
Block desgin he scored at 75%
Object Assemebly he scored at 63%
Symbol search he scored at 63%
Now I was told that there are big differces in percentages in Vocab and Comprehension. There seems a processing issues and his nonverbal is really behind. I tell you, the more and more I look at my child, the things he does and says, this test, really makes me think that is on this austic septrum. I have just faxed the test finds the Dr and than we meet next Monday to talk about them before my team meeting at school.....any thoughts on these scores. Is this typical with a child who has AS. His IQ is 113, High Average, but some of the stuff shows a huge delay.
I am sorry for this being so long, I am just pulling my hair out like crazy here..
Thanks to anyone who might be able to help. I can be emailed privatley at CrispyFunk@aol.com as well...Thanks