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|Thu, 09-11-2003 - 6:24pm|
I'm Nicke. I have a daughter who will be seven next month. We don't have an exact diagnosis of Asperger's. After almost five years of testing and special schooling, we're still working on figuring out exactly what's going on.
At two, she was diagnosed with a speech delay. We received therapy through our local Parents As Teachers branch and she attended the Early Childhood Center pre-school. Her teachers at the pre-school thought she was autistic, but we could never get an exact diagnosis from "the experts" at the hospital.
In Kindergarten, her testing revealed she had ADHD behaviours. We took her to a psychologist and eventually a psychiatrist for a diagnosis. The psychiatrist also thought she had behaviours that fit in the OCD, SID (sensory), and anxiety categories. She also mentioned "high functioning autism". We're on a waiting list for another autism eval.
Last spring, her psych prescribed Ritalin to help her in school. We saw positive results immediately. At the time, we knew it wasn't a long term solution but we wanted to see how she would respond to medication while in the classroom setting. It really helped her stay on task and even helped her socialization skills. This summer, we did not give her the medication because we didn't feel she needed it at home. When we started the meds back up when school started, she had some adverse reactions...nausea, extreme anxiety, hyperventilating, etc. So her psych took her off of the Ritalin and prescribed Zoloft. Last spring, she wanted to do both the anti-depressant AND the Ritalin, but I didn't want to. She's been on the Zoloft for a week and we're not seeing any results yet. Her anxiety is very bad. Her classroom teacher reports that "she's either crying or staring off into space". Her special-ed teacher says the anxiety "spells" are getting shorter throughout the day.
I feel NO support from her classroom teacher. When we introduced ourselves at the school's Open House (two days before school started), I gave her a "resume" for Claire that explained her situation and her symptoms. When I handed it to her, she was like 'Uh...what's THIS for?" Then when Claire had her anxiety attacks, I tried talking to her again at the first parent night (two weeks after school started). She was physically backing away from me and nodding saying "okay, just let me know what's going on..." I was like "That's what I'm trying to do NOW, lady!" Then I e-mailed her on Monday because Claire's weekend homework was still in her backpack when I picked her up from school. Her response? "No, Claire did not turn in her home work. I do not look in their backpacks. It's THEIR responsibility to turn in their homework!" (This was the first time they'd had homework, BTW.) Today, I took Claire to school and dropped her off at the classroom door. I'd e-mailed the teacher last night asking for a meeting in person. She didn't get it, but she said "I can just talk to you here..." and launches in to how Claire just cries and begs to go to the nurse so I can come and get her and all of the inappropriate and disruptive things that Claire does...all while holding the door open for the students to come in to class.
On the bright side, Claire's special ed teacher is very supportive and understanding. She had Claire last year. I was able to vent a little to her about the classroom teacher's inappropriate responses. She and I agreed that it wouldn't be a good idea to pull her out just yet. We have another appointment with the psychiatrist on Monday so we'll go from there. Hopefully the psych will have some suggestions on how to deal with the school.
I'm also seriously considering home-schooling. Claire begs me to stay home with her. She even says "I can do math at home!"
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