I don't have any advice for these particular issues but I wanted to say hi and welcome. There's so much great information here so no doubt someone will have a lot of advice for you.
I understand your frustration with your dev ped though. I have similar frustrations with my daughter's current child psychiatrist. We go in every couple of months, Haley talks about whatever she feels like rambling on about that day, the doctor hands me a new prescription for her meds and says, "She's doing great. See you in two months." I tried to get the ball rolling the last time by asking if he felt that Asperger's and General Anxiety were still the solid diagnosis and he really never did give me a straight answer. I have wanted to take her to someone new but there just isn't anyone to get her in to see up here. I'm hoping we have a more involved doctor when we move in a few weeks.
Hello and welcome. Sorry I missed your post below. You are right, we often forget to look "down below". I guess it is because this board is usually pretty busy (it has been quiet the past few weeks), but that's no excuse.
jooksing, it sounds like your son is a great kid! The concerns you have at preschool made me wonder if your son is getting any help from an early intervention program. My ds qualified for speech at 3 years old, and did a preschool class at early intervention (IFSP) and a community preschool. Both were really great for him for different reasons.
The school district class was much smaller so the teachers would redirect silly behavior (we had that) and also chime in often - "look Tim, Carl is trying to tell you about his weekend - look at him and listen!" kind of stuff that the community preschool really couldn't address. I also paid my private SLP to go to the community class one hour a week (it was a m-w-f-1:00-3:30 type schedule) and she really helped him. She kind shadowed him at circle, and on the playground and would redirect disruptive or non social behavior. She also ran interference with the teachers and taught them to do some redirecting. Some school districts will send a para educator on their dime, but not my school, so we paid for it. My SLP was our lifesaver - she worked weekly or twice a week with my son so she had way more insight into his progress, shortcomings and kept us on a plan vs. our developmental ped. who we saw 3 times a year (and did prescribe meds).
I would look at getting your son into a special ed preschool in addition to the community school. I would have your private OT or SLP observe him at the school so she can see his possible sensory freezing and work on that, and I agree about the vision - my son is an excellent reader - way above grade level. When we started kindergarten my son was not interacting on the playground - and said he "couldn't find anyone". I thought this was due to the new situation, but come to find out, he is nearsighted and truly couldn't track the kids in the distance.
All of the hard work you and your son are doing now will pay off in the future!
My son is tactile defensive and you would not know it if he is in a calm group of children. It is more evident if kids are wild and wacky. Being touched when you can predict is OK, when you can't ... not. So it still is possible from what you write that your ds is very tactile defensive and his fear of other children is rooted in that. How does he do one-on-one? My ds is now 10 and has many friends and those were built in small settings. When he was in school (he is now homeschooled), he was always in classes of 10 or 12 with several adults and that is where he started to build up more tolerance to playing in groups. He is super bright academically and has great language, it has been his relationships with other children that has taken years of work and intervention.
My ds is also dx'ed PDD-NOS. He has always been very social with grownups (although now he prefers kids big time!), has never had food or sleep issues and is in fact a very healthy kid. He is considered borderline ASD, and our borderline kids are often the harder ones to catch and even help, because it is not always easy to find out what is causing the problems and helping. But now that ds is older, he is more able to verbalize exactly what is bothering him and then he can be helped if the situation warrants it!
Anyways, your kid sounds like a great kid and you a great mom. Do stick around and tell us more about him and yourself and don't hesitate to ask any and all questions. there are so many cool, knowledgeable moms, many of them also professional therapists and teachers, so there's alot of help available!
As for our specific situation school and therapy wise, staring at about 15 months, my son was receiving home visits from Early Childhood intervention (once a week from a teacher, every two weeks from a speech pathologist). Last year, my son still got those home visits, plus the once weekly playgroup run by the ECSE teachers, plus private speech and OT that we had to pay for with our insurance. He was discharged from speech last spring - the therapist thought he was up to speed with his peers. We would have continued with OT, but we reached the limit on our insurance coverage. We're about to start it again in a few weeks, now that it's a new year and insurance is ready to chip in again. Currently, my son attends a preschool class for 3 year olds that's integrated, with 8 special needs kids and 8 "typical" kids. There is one special ed teacher, one typical teacher, one speech pathologist, and about
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I don't have any advice for these particular issues but I wanted to say hi and welcome. There's so much great information here so no doubt someone will have a lot of advice for you.
I understand your frustration with your dev ped though. I have similar frustrations with my daughter's current child psychiatrist. We go in every couple of months, Haley talks about whatever she feels like rambling on about that day, the doctor hands me a new prescription for her meds and says, "She's doing great. See you in two months." I tried to get the ball rolling the last time by asking if he felt that Asperger's and General Anxiety were still the solid diagnosis and he really never did give me a straight answer. I have wanted to take her to someone new but there just isn't anyone to get her in to see up here. I'm hoping we have a more involved doctor when we move in a few weeks.
Mom to Erin (19) and Haley (10yo Aspie)
Mom to Erin (19) and Haley (10yo Asp
Hello and welcome. Sorry I missed your post below. You are right, we often forget to look "down below". I guess it is because this board is usually pretty busy (it has been quiet the past few weeks), but that's no excuse.
Can I ask a personal question? Are you Irish?
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jooksing, it sounds like your son is a great kid! The concerns you have at preschool made me wonder if your son is getting any help from an early intervention program. My ds qualified for speech at 3 years old, and did a preschool class at early intervention (IFSP) and a community preschool. Both were really great for him for different reasons.
The school district class was much smaller so the teachers would redirect silly behavior (we had that) and also chime in often - "look Tim, Carl is trying to tell you about his weekend - look at him and listen!" kind of stuff that the community preschool really couldn't address. I also paid my private SLP to go to the community class one hour a week (it was a m-w-f-1:00-3:30 type schedule) and she really helped him. She kind shadowed him at circle, and on the playground and would redirect disruptive or non social behavior. She also ran interference with the teachers and taught them to do some redirecting. Some school districts will send a para educator on their dime, but not my school, so we paid for it. My SLP was our lifesaver - she worked weekly or twice a week with my son so she had way more insight into his progress, shortcomings and kept us on a plan vs. our developmental ped. who we saw 3 times a year (and did prescribe meds).
I would look at getting your son into a special ed preschool in addition to the community school. I would have your private OT or SLP observe him at the school so she can see his possible sensory freezing and work on that, and I agree about the vision - my son is an excellent reader - way above grade level. When we started kindergarten my son was not interacting on the playground - and said he "couldn't find anyone". I thought this was due to the new situation, but come to find out, he is nearsighted and truly couldn't track the kids in the distance.
All of the hard work you and your son are doing now will pay off in the future!
Hi, and welcome.
Welcome.
First off, I want to thank everyone for being so wonderfully warm and supportive. I'm very glad to have found you all!
Paula: I probably couldn't be further from Irish. Believe it or not, I'm a Chinese American who was born and raised in a small town in
Hi and welcome!
My son is tactile defensive and you would not know it if he is in a calm group of children. It is more evident if kids are wild and wacky. Being touched when you can predict is OK, when you can't ... not. So it still is possible from what you write that your ds is very tactile defensive and his fear of other children is rooted in that. How does he do one-on-one? My ds is now 10 and has many friends and those were built in small settings. When he was in school (he is now homeschooled), he was always in classes of 10 or 12 with several adults and that is where he started to build up more tolerance to playing in groups. He is super bright academically and has great language, it has been his relationships with other children that has taken years of work and intervention.
My ds is also dx'ed PDD-NOS. He has always been very social with grownups (although now he prefers kids big time!), has never had food or sleep issues and is in fact a very healthy kid. He is considered borderline ASD, and our borderline kids are often the harder ones to catch and even help, because it is not always easy to find out what is causing the problems and helping. But now that ds is older, he is more able to verbalize exactly what is bothering him and then he can be helped if the situation warrants it!
Anyways, your kid sounds like a great kid and you a great mom. Do stick around and tell us more about him and yourself and don't hesitate to ask any and all questions. there are so many cool, knowledgeable moms, many of them also professional therapists and teachers, so there's alot of help available!
yours,
Sara
As for our specific situation school and therapy wise, staring at about 15 months, my son was receiving home visits from Early Childhood intervention (once a week from a teacher, every two weeks from a speech pathologist). Last year, my son still got those home visits, plus the once weekly playgroup run by the ECSE teachers, plus private speech and OT that we had to pay for with our insurance. He was discharged from speech last spring - the therapist thought he was up to speed with his peers. We would have continued with OT, but we reached the limit on our insurance coverage. We're about to start it again in a few weeks, now that it's a new year and insurance is ready to chip in again. Currently, my son attends a preschool class for 3 year olds that's integrated, with 8 special needs kids and 8 "typical" kids. There is one special ed teacher, one typical teacher, one speech pathologist, and about
I just wanted to pop in here, although evenone has given much better information than I could do.
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