New here NEED some input

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Registered: 05-19-2003
New here NEED some input
Sat, 08-09-2003 - 5:21pm
Hi all,

I actually posted this same message on the other Autism board, and was directed by Candes (thank you) to try this board, the members may be more helpful and more i the same boat. So here goes...

Maybe I read too much, maybe I'm wrong, maybe he's just a great little boy, but I just NEED some help, some support, and some assurances. My son is 14 months old, (maybe too young to even be thinking about this yet), but a bunch of things are sticking out and maybe if I just list them that will help:

1) He plays best by himself (he is my only child, and he doesn't get upset when others are around, but people frequently say how amazed they are taht he'll play so long by himself.)

2) He hasn't really said a distinguishable word yet. He points to things he wants and whines until he gets them, but he hasn't said anything that i can distinguish yet.

3) When in his High chair or his stroller sometimes he'll rock back and forth. He smiles while he's doing it which could mean that he thinks it's a ride, but I know that too can be a symptom.

4) Twice I have "caught him" staring, and one of the times I waved my hand in front of his face and he didn't flinch or stop string until I picked him up.

5) Starting a couple of months ago he stopped letting me hold him / rock him facing towards me, he'll always turn around and sit on my lap facing out, never in.

6) He does seem to adjust pretty well (ie: sometimes he gets a bath before bed, sometimes we eat at home, sometimes we sleep at a friends house).

I've been reading up on Autism, and these could all be symptoms or they could be fairly normal. His next well visit is in Setember, should I wait to see my doctor and ask him then, or should I see if I can get him into to see him sooner, or should I just relax.

One of thing, and I don't know if there is any connection, but my mother's brother had epilepsy. I know they are not in the same category, but they are seizure related.

Thank you for ANY input, I'm really going out of my mind (i spent an hour crying this morning)


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Registered: 06-27-2003
Tue, 08-12-2003 - 11:08am
Hi, Sam - I only have one child, but I can tell you that I think the fact that your son points to things is an excellent sign. My son didn't point (or wave bye-bye, or play peek-a-boo) until he was over 3 years old. Out of the rest of the things you mention, my son only had speech delay and playing alone, although everyone told us that toddlers often prefer "parallel play" and "boys talk later".... Other early signs would be lack of eye contact and no pretend play.

Anyway, I hope it reassures you that pointing to things is a good indication against him being on the autism spectrum. We taught our son sign language with help from a speech therapist starting at age 2. That's something you might want to try, even if you don't visit a specialist now.