Next year woes. Just makes me sad.

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Next year woes. Just makes me sad.
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Tue, 05-25-2010 - 10:22pm

I'm feeling even more confused at my son's ability do do well in public school next year. We weren't really caring much about him being in any gifted class. But I was looking online and there is a "gifted" class of 24 kids, 8 from grade 3, 8 from grade 4, and 8 from grade 5, no more, no less, even if there are more or less gifted kids. It also said there is only ONE grade 3 class and one split, so about 36 kids DS9's age. That means 8/36 kids in his grade go to the gifted class? What really? Since only 2 percent of the population is gifted, and this is WAY higher, I was confused, so I called and had a nice conversation with the teacher of this class. She was very easy to talk to. She agreed that although she has 3 of her own kids who have very high IQs, her gifted class doesn't expect them to be gifted, and some don't even perform past grade level.

He had ZERO kids at his level in the public school I pulled him out of. He is older now, so we were assuming there would be.

Here's my problem: If all the top kids are not in the regular class, where does that leave my DS9??? It's too late to apply for the "gifted" class. So not only is my son going from 4th grade work this year to 4th again (due to being with same aged kids), there will more than likely be NO kids like him in his class. And they keep the same kids from 3rd to 4th to 5th, so not much change of him going later. AND I ASKED HER IF THERE WERE KIDS WITH ASPERGERS IN HER CLASS AND SHE SAID YES. I had to use caps there. I have never met any aspies...

This just makes me sad.

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Wed, 05-26-2010 - 3:42pm

My problem is that lots of things are going to be so hard for him, and now I see that lots of things are going to be so easy for him. Nothing much in the middle. Just like in kindergarten when he had already been reading novels for months, but couldn't tie his shoes, sit still, cut, or understand others, yes he was supposed to learn letters and numbers, sit still and cut and paste all day, KWIM?

Does anyone else have kids who are very advanced and behind all at once? What do they do for them at school?




Edited 6/3/2010 5:49 pm ET by mommaforever
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Wed, 05-26-2010 - 5:05pm

Schools often use different criteria to identify TAG kids. Sometimes it is based on IQ scores, sometimes it is based on standardized testing, sometimes it is based on teacher recommendation and sometimes it is a magic combination of all three. I have to admit that I never worried too much about it because I am more concerned with my ds fitting in than standing out, kwim? There is also the issue that as school progresses, learning becomes less memorization type things and more abstract which many Aspies have difficulty with. In other words, breezing through the lower grades isn't uncommon, but things do get harder in the upper grades. You can still request that your ds be given more challenging assignments if the regular classwork is too easy. You can also supplement his learning at home which is what I have always done. If you really feel his placement is wrong, pursue it. Our kids do have big gaps in their skill sets and it isn't always easy to find just the right fit.

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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 8:59am

My DS is 11 1/2 and finishing 5th grade today. He has been in a GATE program since the middle of 1st grade. When we lived in GA it was a pull-out program once a week. In 3rd grade we moved to a new state and he has been in a full time GATE since then.

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Thu, 05-27-2010 - 4:34pm

I agree about the higher thinking in the higher levels, and sticking out because he's in gifted, that's why I didn't have him tested for gifted. But now that I know the GATE program takes the higher kids, even if non are gifted or talented, this makes me think he would stick out even more in the regular class. Does that make sense?

Middle school scares me tayhudson! But I'm sure a fresh start will be nice for him. Is he going to receivce any special services in Middle School?




Edited 6/3/2010 5:52 pm ET by mommaforever
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Mon, 05-31-2010 - 8:42pm
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Edited 6/3/2010 5:47 pm ET by mommaforever