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| Thu, 02-15-2007 - 1:13am |
...you're never quite prepared for when you hear your child use the word "humping."
| Thu, 02-15-2007 - 1:13am |
...you're never quite prepared for when you hear your child use the word "humping."
Oh geez....
I *unfortunately* think I can top that one.
My son, not unlike his father (when he was 12 or so) is fond of "humping" his bed.
Now, at 8 I find it a little unnerving, but my pediatrician attributes it to his uncircumsized status, stating that as the foreskin separates, it probably feels "good" to do that.... as if that isn't bad enough to hear.
He comes home from a weekend with dad to tell me that dad said "Dominic, if you don't stop humping your bed, you're going to end up making a mess everywhere!!!!" But neglected to offer ANY explanation, which of course landed in my lap...
So, if it isn't from the 2nd or older classmates, he'll hear it from someone who simply acts like a third grader! Good luck. And from what I'm hearing about our health classes here, they are beginning to talk about hygiene and health and relationships. Good grief, I think I want him to be absent that day. Imagine how that'll be interpreted with their literal mind!
Nicole
Well, I kinda have a different perspective of this, and of course some may disagree with me but here goes.
Its perfectly normal for our kids to feel these things, and there's no way to stop them from hearing things in school. It happens, and unless you shield them completly from life, they are going to see and hear things that make us feel uncomfortable.
The best way to deal with this is to listen, and then talk about it.
I remember so many times I would silently cringe, while my grown dd would come home and tell me stuff, but I put aside the cringe and just talked to her about it. Same with my boys. I am just happy that they feel open enough to tell me, and not feel embarrassed.
I think thats great that they told you Evelyn. I know its hard, and it happens when we least expect it, but you can look at it as a positive way for the door to open for communication. And also for you to tell them the truth, when many things passed around in school is not the truth.
I'm pretty open about sexuality, and as time has passed I have learned not to be as shocked as I used to. Its normal.
And I am a true believer that if they ask a question, then they should know. All my kids asked about how babies were made at the age of six. I promptly pulled out a book and read it to them. I would much rather they hear the truth from me first, then a school yard full of kids.
But then again, this is just my opinion :)
Lainie