Not real happy (warning: pity-fest)

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Not real happy (warning: pity-fest)
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Fri, 05-04-2007 - 11:08pm

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 9:54am

I'm so sorry you're having a bad time of it now, especially when you're usually one of the prime ones providing support to others. I just beg that you NOT blame it on turning 40 in July since I am also hitting that milestone at the same time. If that is the reason, then I am apparently just a grumpy old lady and not someone who has valid reasons for her fatigue, stress, etc.

I'm also frustrated with the medical doctors when trying to get a handle on the vague medical symptoms I experience like you mentioned. In my brain, I've decided that I have clogged arteries and am about to have a major heart attack any minute at which time my family will be left to self-destruct without me there to hold them together (I'm humble, too -- okay, maybe just realistic). The doctors are sure all my symptoms are 'cus I'm just overweight, but I'm pretty sure it's possible for fat people to also be sick. It's been awhile since I've gone for a checkup, however, since the last time I went, the doctor had me strip and put on a lovely paper gown so he could examine me. The nurse, thinking I'd been discharged, came into the room to clean it, saw me sitting there naked, and asked in a shocked voice what on earth I was doing. Well gee, the doctor was through with me, but I thought I'd get my jollies by letting my naked fat belly hang out to try to seduce the old man. The doc did diagnose high cholesterol and prescribed medication, but I stopped taking it and haven't been back. I need to find a doc (& office staff) that I'm happier with.

As far as feeding the kids goes, I'm happy that my kids are finally in a better place eating-wise, but there were plenty of days where ds had about 6 hotdogs a day 'cus there was so little he'd eat. Fortunately we've had more years and probably milder AS to get my kids eating a few more food items.

I hope the stars align to let you have a better day/week/month shortly!

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Registered: 04-11-2007
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 2:00pm
Hi,
New here and all but I agree with Paula about going to the doc. You sound like I did a few years ago, and turns out, I am hypothyroid. Now I take a synthetic thyroid replacement along with antidepressants, and sure enough, I feel much better now. I felt like the whole world was caving in, and literally had to make myself fall off the bed, crawl to the door, heave myself up, just so I could take care of the kids. It was horrible. I had to ask my doc to do the thyroid test though, I made the appointment with that in mind and right up front told him what I wanted. I hope you feel better soon,
Carey
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Registered: 09-13-2006
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 2:02pm

LOL about the whole paper gown scenario.

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 6:06pm

Wha-?! I thought the gay guys were supposed to be the sensitive, kind ones!

I probably won't join you in the "get fit and look beautiful by July" (tho' I waaaay more than need to -- I just know I'm not ready to change my bad behaviors yet). Besides, if I wait another ten years to get cute, everyone can tell me how much better I look then than at 40! I'll cheer you along, though, and you can feel better about your 40 when you compare it to mine!

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Registered: 04-28-2007
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 9:35pm

(((((EVELYN)))

Oh hun-bun, you poor thing. You know I agree with Paula (when don't I, the saintly guru that she is!!!!) A full physical with blood work ups is necessary.....blah blah blah.

However if nothing comes of that I also know sometimes life raising kids just plain sucks. Yes we have out good days, a lot of ho-hum days and sometimes.....just sometimes we have the "life sucks" series of days.
Then add in raising an AS/mood disorder-nos and another sensitive boy and the "life is just too hard right now-nos" dx creeps in. (Btw: dh adds -nos after anything he doesn't understand or can't fix;)

(((HUGS)))) and throwing a large flaggon of wine your way,

Dee
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Registered: 06-25-2003
Mon, 05-07-2007 - 9:37pm

I turn 40 in July too, BTW. July 1st, to be exact.


I am totally NOT trying to get fit, just eat right and stay upright.


-Paula


-Paula

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Registered: 05-01-2007
Tue, 05-08-2007 - 10:32am

First off - you are NOT a bad mom. If you want to know what a bad mom is, I could send you links for many stories that would curl your toes. Parenting special needs children is ROUGH mentally, physically and financially. That financial component can affect the other two as well.

That being said, yes, head to the Dr ASAP. Thyroid and anemia are my top thoughts, which can easily be found out through blood work. My husband was just talking to me this morning because I'm sick and he thinks I get sick too much and I should find out what's causing it. Mind you, stress lowers your immunity. I didn't mention that part to hubby though ;)

Anemia can be fixed easily with diet AND in a way to work with weight watchers. Two packets of Cream of Wheat have about all the iron you need in a day. I've been eating Quaker Oatmeal cereal and one serving (1 cup) has 90% of the iron I need in a day. I'm sure the bowl I have is more than 1 cup though. Thyroid issues can be worked with with medication.

I hope things can go smoother for you soon!!

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